Life Check Yourself Episode 315 – With Fred Joyal: The Best Way to Start Up a Conversation with That Hot Guy You are Interested in
Have you ever thought there was a little Gremlin in your head that was sabotaging your dating life?
And it keeps you from approaching or talking to men, causing you to miss opportunity after opportunity to meet quality guys?
You know what I’m talking about…
You see a smoking hot guy standing in front of you. it could be anywhere — at the grocery store, in an elevator or in line at Starbucks?
There you are at Starbucks standing next to this gorgeous guy.
You keep waiting for the “right” moment to say something to him, but it never materializes. You’re suddenly at a total loss for words.
It’s the Gremlin.
And in a split second the opportunity vanishes.
If you only knew what to say… how to be bold without coming on too strong, then you could seize these once-in-a-lifetime opportunities, and change your life!
Marni welcomes Author, Speaker, Entrepreneur, and Business Advisor, Fred Joyal to the Life Check Yourself mobile studio. Fred’s book, Superbold: From Under Confident to Charismatic in 90 Days is a step-by-step guide for having a successful and happy life.
Key Takeaways from this Episode:
- Boldness can be learned
- Communication mistakes
- Taking risks and action
- How to be bold by default
What Does it Mean to Be Superbold? [2:10]
Confidence is how you feel. Boldness is what you do. A common misconception is that boldness is something we are born with. But, boldness can be learned much faster than most people think.
Boldness is confidence in action.
The Power Tools of Boldness [6:59]
Actively listening to someone with no response planned makes a huge difference when making someone feel comfortable with you. Smiling and making eye contact will keep most people engaged with you.
A Superbold power tool is going into a situation and being present for the experience itself without thinking about the outcome you want.
It’s easy to project things on other people. It’s better to find out who the person actually is without hoping they are the person of our dreams.
A conversation during a date doesn’t have to be a ping pong match.
Building the Boldness Muscle: The PRIDE Method [23:30]
Chasing your dreams should make you proud. In nursing homes, more seniors regret the stuff they didn’t try more than making bad decisions. That’s what is gnawing at them in their final days, actions they didn’t take.
The great secret in life is — trying and failing feels almost as good as trying and succeeding.