Life Check Yourself Episode 362 – With Hunt Ethridge: The Best Questions You Can Ask to Get to Know if He is Your Person
Marni welcomes an award-winning international dating and relationship expert. Hunt Ethridge has over 15 years of helping people become the best, most datable versions of themselves. He helps his clients empirically become more datable. His company trains matchmakers and dating coaches. You may have seen him on one or more than 100 media outlets, including Playboy and CNN.
Takeaways from this episode:
- How to communicate with Men about sex
- Use special phraseology to get what you want
- Get empirically better at dating
- How to give a compliment
How Do Men Learn to Be Good at Sex [3:29]
Many women ask Marni why they are not excited about having sex with their boyfriend or how they can get their partners to be better at sex. Hunt says men don’t have a lot of resources to go to for information about relationships and sex. It is hard for them to know what to do.
For men, sex is tied up with ego. And, the male ego is fragile. This is what makes it difficult to ask for relationship advice and not take the feedback as criticism. A magazine or porn isn’t the greatest way to learn about sex because of the stereotypical roles they portray.
There are ways for women to get what they want in bed without being critical or frustrated with their guy. Hunt says it’s all about the phraseology. Adding a positive aspect can make a guy feel comfortable enough to adapt to what his woman wants.
Every woman has a different manual when it comes to physical touch.
Get Empirically Better at Dating [9:22]
Marni asks how women and men optimize themselves to find the right person. Hunt says luck favors the prepared mind. The essence of dating is to understand the value systems of your culture and try to exemplify them.
Empirically better dating is just a series of little extra skills that make you a more interesting, likable, person.
When dating, it is normal for people to ask logical questions hoping to get some conversation starter nuggets. But, in doing that Hunt says, we don’t set the stage for chemistry to flourish. We ask logical questions expecting to get an emotional result. Hunt offers examples of how logical questions can be asked emotionally.
Reframing a question can lead to emotional responses and help put us in a positive light.
Compliments are low-hanging fruit. But, if you give a compliment with a personalized touch it will mean so much more to the person.