Life Check Yourself Episode 363 – With Brett Parker: How to Break Free From Feeling Trapped in Your Life to Have More Energy for Love
Marni welcomes Brett Parker to the show. Brett walked away from his former career as a successful Hollywood director in LA. The burnout and overwhelm created a disconnect from everything he valued including his five-year-old son. He discovered a simple, elegant process to break free from the feeling of disconnect. He has since devoted his life to helping clients find their dream careers with passion, focus, and impact.
Takeaways from this episode:
- Creating the life you want
- Stop making decisions from fear
- Get clear about your why
- Living your million-dollar story
Create the Life You Want [2:21]
Ladies, use this convo with Brett to remind you that every guy you meet has his own crazy going on in his life. After his divorce, Brett found it challenging, but in a good way. He focused on how he could show up to be the best dad because that was the most important thing to him. He was so burned out he felt as if he had no choice but to leave his previous life.
During a dark night on the couch, Brett decided to forget about all the limitations and create a list of his absolute wants and his non-negotiables. He says, we all have a choice and we either choose love or fear. The first step is to decide what we want. If we don’t know what we want, we remain stuck.
When we feel stuck it is because we have made decisions out of fear.
Brett’s Steps to Get Unstuck:
- Walk down the road of fear. Consider the worst possible thing that can happen if you make a change.
- Embody the emotions you want to feel now.
- Get clear about what you want in your life.
- Be committed to living your why.
If you are waiting for the fear to pass you may be waiting forever.
The Process of Reframing [11:46]
Marni asks Brett what to do when we can’t get clear about what it is we truly want. For example, when we know what we don’t want but can’t put our finger on what would make our future amazing.
Brett took the leap even though he was afraid he wasn’t going to be there for the people important to him. Yet, in taking action, he was the happiest he had ever been in his life. He began embracing everything that came his way. He was learning new things and he was beginning to embody his why. He started to feel like the luckiest person in the world.
Success or love may not look like what you think it should look like. Reimagine your future.