Life Check Yourself 423 – If You Are Stuck Trying To Get Your Man To Take The Lead
Marni welcomes Gillian Pothier to the Life Check Yourself studio where the duo dissects what masculine energy and maleness actually mean. Gillian is a writer, a teacher, and a mentor who has helped women create fulfilling lifelong relationships with the men in their lives. And that extends to their romantic partners, their brothers, and their fathers. Her work centers around what becomes possible when you understand masculine and feminine energy.
- We need to talk about dad
- How to get right with the nature of maleness
- Is it time to reclaim the source of patriarchy?
Going Back to Basics [03:35]
If you’re to start fixing or developing the masculine relationships in your lives, you need to look at the source code, the first template. And that’s the father figure. Women need to look back at what’s inside their systems because we project these same wounds unconsciously over and over again.
If we’re talking about a path of repair with men in the masculine, in our lives, we have to look at the OG.
Dethroning the Father [08:19]
Women do not understand men and maleness. The reality is that so many women continue to homogenize and feminize men. We want them to be like us. It’s important to cleanse ourselves from the distortions taught to us by a culture that degrades men in the masculine.
We tend to use feminine values and ethos and morals and preferences in our relationship with men to judge them as a good man.
Tough Love [14:15]
For what has happened to you as a little girl or throughout different stages of your life, it can easily be said that it wasn’t your responsibility. But the moment it lives in your nervous system and your constellation of beliefs, it becomes your responsibility.
It’s not about blaming women though. But it is about understanding that in order to have the experience that you want, this is an invitation by life or the divine to enter into a heroine’s journey and create.
We have developed a capitalistic socio-political word called the patriarchy. But patria means family.
