Dating Den Episode 172 – With Elle Russ: How to Tap Into Vulnerability That Will Create Massive Attraction AND Yes, We Are Talking to You Alpha Females
Are you a smart, ‘alpha’ type woman and you’re afraid you might be unintentionally killing your chances at love…
Do you struggle to attract real men that will chase you and date you?
Do you secretly believe quality men just aren’t into smart and successful women?
If you want to learn how to step into your vulnerability… so that you can attract and keep the amazing man you want and deserve…
Marni welcomes the formidable Elle Russ into the Den to talk about how women, especially Alpha females, can be Confident As F*ck while embracing their vulnerability to attract connection and intimacy.
As a coach and author, Elle helps people reclaim their health. She is a TV and film writer and host of the Primal Blueprint podcast. During this conversation, she shares the inspiration for writing her book, Confident As Fu*k: How to Ditch Bad Vibes, Clean Up Your Past, and Cultivate Confidence in Order to Make Your Dreams a Reality and key concepts to help women be confident in all areas of their life including dating!
Key Takeaways from this Episode:
- How to attract quality people into your life
- How alpha females can express vulnerability
- Avoiding Downers that drain your confidence
- How to have only conversations that matter
What Inspired Elle to Write Confident As F*ck? [1:30]
Elle says that there is a theme to the type of people you attract into your life. Clients would come to her for help building their confidence. Plenty of badass women can speak to a room of 200+ people but can’t be vulnerable in an intimate or private environment.
Alpha females have pitfalls and a BIG one is being vulnerable. We don’t, on a primal level, want to appear weak. But, in dating it makes us inaccessible.
The Downer Effect [21:33]
Elle considers people who project a lack of confidence ‘Downers’. When people have bad vibes toward you you feel it. You can share your experiences with some people over and over and they will consistently reply with negativity.
Stay Away From the Nonversation [33:50]
Elle coined the term nonversation for conversations that are a waste of time and they go nowhere.
Stop sharing stuff with negative people. You will never win. People should be worth your time or you shouldn’t hang with them.
If you want to learn how to attract quality people into your life… so that you can have the healthy, fulfilling relationship you want and deserve…