Dating Den Episode 264 – How to Talk to Men: Simple Shifts That Help You Be Seen, Heard, and Valued with Krister Ungerböck
Have you ever wondered why some relationships fail and others survive?
Even if they seem so solid from the outside, you probably know a couple (or two) where you were shocked when they split.
It’s like some couples are a team and have a real partnership… and that partnership nurtures and protects them.
And other couples feel more like ‘freelancers.’ And they are destined to fail.
If you want to know the big difference between the couples that thrive, and everyone else…
And what you can do to create a lasting, connected, intimate relationship…
This episode is for you!
Marni welcomes the Wall Street Journal bestselling author of Battle-tested CEO Krister Ungerböck to the podcast to discuss a communication framework that can save relationships at work and home. Krister shares simple verbal shifts that can transform conversations, reduce conflict, and create intimacy within your relationships.
Key takeaways from this episode:
- Ask questions without making people defensive
- Create safety in a relationship
- What makes words so powerful
- Bring awareness to a relationship issue in a playful way
What is TalkShift? [4:03]
TalkShift is a communication framework Krister developed after watching many of his business and personal relationships fall apart. Two weeks after stepping down from his position as CEO, his wife walked out on him. He thought he was a good leader but realized no one wanted to be in a relationship with him.
Solve Problems in a Playful Way 
Research shows that men tend to thrive upon the approval and encouragement from their female partners.
Marni and Krister both openly share a personal experience about a communication gap in their current relationships.
A subtle, non-intentional repetitive manner of communication can erode a relationship, or someone’s self-esteem in a relationship.
Creating Intimacy From Conflict [30:35]
Krister points out that whenever we find ourselves angry there is always an underlying driver.
We all have triggers. Knowing our partners triggers makes it easier to give them a pass.
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