Dating Den Episode 220 – With Katie Grimes: How to Free Yourself from Overthinking Your Dating Life
Marni welcomes international Sober Dating coach and host of the Anything for Love podcast, Katie Grimes into the Den. Katie is a thought leader of emotional sobriety. In her work, she mentors women to trust their intuition and to make miraculous shifts to break free from love addiction.
Key Takeaways from this Episode:
- Break free from love addiction
- Stop overthinking your love life
- Trust your intuition
- Be honest and open about thoughts and experiences
Sober Dating [1:40]
Katie describes her past dating experiences where she was caught in a cycle of overthinking or texting a guy who didn’t respond to her. She admits to having a love addiction before adopting a sober dating process. The key to overcoming love addiction is to become more aware of your thoughts and feelings because they are at the root of questionable actions.
Don’t let your anxiety predict your future.
Most of our issues as adults stem from our childhoods. The things we needed as a child but didn’t get will resurface over and over in our adult relationships.
Marni asks how women can get through the anxiety of the moment. Katie says to ask yourself ‘What do I need right now?” and to distract yourself with things you know will not hurt you, like physically sitting on your hands. Consider what you are doing to process through your feelings so you don’t just eat, work or exercise through your feelings.
Trust Your Intuition to Make Shifts in Love [18:14]
Intuition is making a decision that is very clear and easy to make. It is clear you know what you want. Fear creates a tennis match in your mind with fast-paced thoughts bouncing back and forth. Intuition is calm, peaceful, serene, and clear.
When you are in a fight or flight mode become aware of what state you are in. If you are anxious, verbally reach out to a trusted person.
Symptoms of Love Addiction [25:15]
Love addiction is a compulsive need to do something to make you feel loved, validated, and supported through affection or attention. Yet, when you try to take action you feel good for a second, and then you regret it.
An example of being love addicted is sleeping with someone you have chemistry with and expect an instant relationship. But, the next morning you feel like crap and question whether you should text or not.
Love addicts are not screwed up. They just desire the love they didn’t get as a child.
