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Life Check Yourself Episode 295 - Tracy Crossley: Understanding Your Attachment Styles So You Stop Missing Out on Opportunities with the Great Guys


Life Check Yourself Episode 295 - Tracy Crossley: Understanding Your Attachment Styles So You Stop Missing Out on Opportunities with the Great Guys


Tracy Crossley

Life Check Yourself Episode 295 – With Tracy Crossley: Understanding Your Attachment Styles So You Stop Missing Out on Opportunities with the Great Guys

Do you trust men are really into you when you’re dating or in a relationship… or do you like a lot of reassurance and attention?

When you text a man and he doesn’t get right back to you, do you get nervous that he isn’t into you anymore?

Can you give love and accept love easily, and get close to others… or are you afraid of being vulnerable and intimate?

Do you feel panicked when someone you’re dating needs time or space away from you?

Do you tend to become dependent on your partner… or do you prefer to be independent in a relationship?

Once you understand your attachment style, you’ll stop missing out on potential opportunities with great guys!

Marni welcomes behavioral relationship expert Tracy Crossley into the Life Check Yourself studio. Tracy is an author and podcast host who helps people with unhealthy life and relationship patterns. transform parts of their character such as imposter syndrome, insecure attachment styles, negative belief systems, destructive self-talk, and more.

Key Takeaways from this Episode:

  • How to find your authentic self
  • Feel your feelings
  • Be curious instead of bolting
  • Drop the imposter and be your authentic self

Understanding Attachment Styles [2:03]

Many people know of their attachment style but few know how to use the information to enrich their lives and move from an insecure attachment style to a healthy one.

Our original attachment style comes from how we received love when we were children. We incorporate our early feelings of what we think love is into our adult relationship dynamics. Each attachment style plays out differently, but it always comes down to a self-worth issue.

The avoidant attachment style is fear of being rejected and abandonment. Those with this type of attachment style either stay away from relationships or are emotionally unavailable in the relationships they get in. Sometimes, they are looking for the perfect partner who doesn’t exist.

Feeling Our Feelings [8:15]

Tracy says emotional reactions come from a story we react to. To heal, we need to uncover the motivating feeling at the base of our reactions.
We tend to victimize ourselves in the stories we tell ourselves. To get to our deeper feelings, we need to question what is the true reality and then take responsibility for the choices we actively made.

Our bodies hold our emotions. Emotions are not just thoughts. When we feel overwhelmed, Tracy recommends riding the wave of the feeling until it goes away. You will be less anxious and more in control of yourself. If a childhood feeling keeps coming back.

We get caught up in our stories. But if we are courageous and go deep down to find the truth we can find freedom from our false identity.

Step Out of Imposter Syndrome and into Your Authentic Self [30:10]

In our early stages of development, we lack self-awareness. We are constantly deciding who we need to be to get what we want from others. We decide what kind of characteristics we can adopt to get attention, validation, and love. When we enter a relationship, and people try to get to know the real us we fear they will try to see the real us. Then we feel ashamed about being an imposter. It’s a vicious cycle.

Make life a journey of curiosity instead of being judgmental. Take your time to discover your authentic self.

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Marni Battista’s memoir/”how to” hybrid candidly chronicles her own journey to self-awareness and manifesting love, lighting the way for other women to do the same. How to Find a Quality Guy replaces the outdated relationship paradigm with realistic advice and invaluable steps for finding and keeping the kind of love we all deserve

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