Life Check Yourself Episode 338 – The 3 Biggest Mistakes That Are Keeping You Stuck & Single with Chris Gillis
Marni and Chris Gillis are celebrating two million downloads of Life Check Yourself! During the conversation, they reflect on some of the biggest hot takes and lessons derived from the amazing episodes of Love Island, The Bachelor, The Bachelorette, Love on the Spectrum, and other reality dating shows.
Dating takeaways from this episode:
- Doing the inside work to find your authentic self
- How judging others creates a love shield
- Finding joy amidst the chaos
- Balancing feminine and masculine energy
- The power of vulnerability
Build a Dating Strategy From the Inside Out [2:24]
Some people believe that what they don’t have is what is keeping them from finding a partner but no matter how beautiful and successful someone is if they don’t have core foundational self-worth they will not be able to attract the right person for the long-term. One thing the reality shows teach us is that beautiful people still really struggle.
When we listen to our critical inner voice it can steer us into uncertain territory.
Many women think they need to play a game or pretzel themselves into being someone that guys want when real attractiveness is just being yourself. It’s an inside job.
Reveal, Release, Rejuvenate, and Resource [12:17]
Healing the unconscious part of ourselves by rewiring our neural pathways allows us to release our perceived limitations and express our authentic selves. When we continue to resource our groundedness and sense of self, we become in tune with our inner knowing.
The False Protection of a Love Shield [20:57]
Marni reminds us that our brains want to protect us from being hurt but it is just an illusion of safety. Every day, even in a good relationship, won’t be butterflies and rainbows. There are real concrete skills to having a successful, fulfilling relationship.
It is possible to share all the love in your heart with another person.
Being Vulnerable to Create Connection [20:57]
Being vulnerable is a keystone of connection. Vulnerability is not just sharing a sad story. It is about being honest with yourself and sharing your truth with others EVEN when you don’t know how it will be received by others.
When we are rejection-proof we have the energy of attraction.