Life Check Yourself Episode 337 – With Amy Green Smith: How to Speak Up for Yourself Without Being a B*tch
It’s surprising how many smart, high-achieving women have been in a relationship with a toxic narcissist…
or feel like they have to settle for a relationship where they get only breadcrumbs and feel like a doormat.
And then they resort to people-pleasing behaviors while losing a level of self-love.
If it’s ever happened to you, you’re definitely not alone.
And if you want to know you can start attracting healthy relationships now, and feel confident saying ‘no’, without settling for the breadcrumbs of attention from others…
This episode is for you!
Marni welcomes credentialed Life Coach, Hypnotherapist, Speaker, Personal Empowerment Expert, and Podcaster, Amy Green Smith to the show. Through her work, Amy helps move individuals to a place of radical personal empowerment and self-worth. She helps people find their voice in her guide, How to Find Your Voice Without Being a Dick. She is highly sought out because of her uncommon style of irreverence, wisdom, and humor.
Dating takeaways from this episode:
- How to stop yourself from people-pleasing
- Finding your voice and your truth
- Direct communication skills
- How women can speak up for themselves
- Change the trajectory of your life
Finding Your Voice [1:56]
Amy says if we look at our biological makeup we are programmed to people-please in order to survive. Most of us have heard of the flight, fight, freeze, and fawn instincts.
People-pleasing fits into the fawn defense. Fitting in is a fundamental human need because our ancestors needed a group to stay safe and survive. In modern times, it doesn’t seem to make sense, but from childhood, we learn that people-pleasing is a safe behavioral tactic.
Finding our voice requires more than a quick fix. Amy says we must incorporate new patterns and habits to make the necessary wiring changes to our brains before we can experience true transformation.
Becoming aware that you are people-pleasing is the first step to finding your voice, but more importantly, you must take action to make a change.
How to Speak Up for Yourself Without Being A D*ck [14:03]
Amy reminds us that we can not make someone feel something. 93% of our communication with another person is paraverbal and nonverbal. Which leaves only 3% being the actual words we use.
As part of her personal empowerment work, Amy uses hypnotherapy to reprogram the limiting inner critic most of us have. Slowing down our brain waves allows us to embed new belief systems that better serve us.