Life Check Yourself Episode 410 Teaching Your Man to Love You The Way You Want to be Loved Without Him Knowing with Frank E Legette III
Marni welcomes Frank E Legette III in the Life Check Yourself studio, where they discuss the most common mistakes women make when it comes to relationships and how to improve said relationships, or rather how to know if it’s time to call it quits. Frank is a life coach for women, a pastor and author of the book, The Art of Womanhood. He’s been providing guidance for single women who are looking for a loving relationship for years and empowering them to leave toxic relationships and find their happiness.
Takeaways from this episode:
- Don’t chase him
- How to keep the power
- What is he working for?
Don’t Put him in the Driver’s Seat [15:03]
Using a metaphor, Frank explains that when in a car ride, it is the driver that determines the speed and the direction of the journey. Similarly, in a relationship, it is the driver that is the pursued and the passenger that is the pursuer. Following that logic, one of the main mistakes women make is that they put the man in the driver seat of the relationship before he has earned the right to occupy that space. When the man is in the driver’s seat, he is given the power to determine the direction of the relationship.
She doesn’t know if he’s capable of loving her the way she wants to be loved. And all of a sudden, he’s in the driver’s seat. He determines how quickly this relationship goes.
Broken Heart Syndrome [24:25]
Can a broken heart lead to health complications? Frank elaborates that it has been found that having broken spirit, or rather being unhappy can lead to a series of medical complications, especially among women. And for many women, this source of unhappiness can stem from a toxic relationship. When a woman is unhappy or stressed, two hormones are secreted: adrenaline and cortisol. And these can lead to health complications.
It affects more women than it does men because they refuse not to be loved by the man that they pledged their loyalty and fealty too. And it affects their happiness.
Build a Solid Foundation [30:06]
Women assume that men know how they want to be treated and how they want to be loved. However, it is the woman herself who is the only one that knows how she wants to be loved and treated – men don’t know, regardless of how many relationships they’ve been in.
When you start a new relationship, you’re building a foundation. And if you make it to the altar, on the wedding day, you don’t get a new foundation.
