Life Check Yourself 433 – Men Choose Women Based on THESE FEELINGS with Mike Goldstein
Marni welcomes strategic dating coach, also known as the OG of online dating, Mike Goldstein in the Life Check Yourself studio, where the duo dive into the male perspective of dating and what men are actually looking for when it comes to a partner. What makes them tick? How do they date? Men, like women, are looking for a safe space where they can be themselves. But what does that actually mean? Their conversation touches on cornerstones of what it means to be in a relationship and how to get there.
- How to be his safe space
- Speak your mind
- How to date right
What Does He Really Want? [16:30]
Men want to feel needed, appreciated, and accepted. They want to show their partner off. But for each man, the definition of that varies. And that definition evolves with age as men start to look at what they really want in a life partner.
So then it’s still showing off, but it becomes less vain. And it’s what would really feel good if a woman has these amazing qualities.
Don’t be the Competition, Be the Prize [20:14]
Your partner is at work all day, fighting his own demons, dealing with his own battles and obstacles. When he comes home, he’s not looking to compete with you. He’s looking to just be with you, let his guard down, and be himself. You’re his safe space, not his battlefield.
Maybe I can be feminine with her. Maybe I’ll be masculine. Whatever I want to do in that moment, she accepts me and doesn’t make it more battle, more conflict. It’s just acceptance.
Breaks Aren’t a Bad Thing [30:31]
This isn’t a race. When it feels overwhelming or demotivating, it’s important to take breaks and just take your distance from the dating scene. Give yourself that space to get excited again.
You’re going to get someone quick when you’re in the right mindset.
