Dating Den Episode 72 – With Mary Shores: Mary Shores — Defining Emotionally Unavailable — What If It’s You and Not Just Him?
Do you ever wonder WHY you keep attracting Mr. Unavailable…
You know, that guy who seems great, you have a magical date or two (with amazing chemistry)…
And then nothing?
Or guy who’s absolutely great when you’re together… it feels like you were meant for each other and he tells you everything you want to hear… but then you don’t hear from him for weeks at a time?
Well, you may not want to hear this but… the truth is, YOU might be the one that’s emotionally unavailable!
My guest, Mary Shores is the best-selling author of Conscious Communications: Your Step by Step Guide to Harnessing the Power of Your Words to Change Your Mind, Your Choices, and Your Life. She is a Speaker and an Entrepreneur who started her empire at the age of 24. She blends her personal experience with neuroscience and human behavior to generate positive and pragmatic solutions for businesses and individuals who wish to defeat the freak-out and to create their ideal life.
Mary Openly Shares Her Story [3:10]
Mary was abandoned several times as a child. She says it planted a seed that grew into her becoming a teenage mother who lived on floors in emergency rooms with her child who had severe brain damage. As traumatic as her situation was it helped to build her strong character. She was a high-achiever who started her own business at 24. When she married she had little understanding of marriage or relationships and the relationship ended in divorce.
Dating in your early 20’s is different than when you are more mature in your 30’s and 40’s.
Why Smart Women Do Not-So-Smart Things Around Men [7:33]
Smart women repeat patterns in their love life they would never do in their work life. When a smart woman attracts an emotionally unavailable man it may be a sign she needs to look inward to find the root cause because we attract what we are.
Women who are high-achievers often try to be something other than what they are.
Drop into your authentic and be more of who you are!
Hacks to Defeat Fear and How to Get the Life You Want [15:58]
Our journey through life is not necessarily supposed to be a graceful one. Mary suggests creating a one-page action plan for growth. Decide on the ‘Core Four’ goals you would like to achieve and then reverse engineer what you want the outcome to be. Get specific about what it is you truly want and then dissect the steps needed to get you there.