Dating Den Episode 73 – With Peter Walsh: What if Clutter is the Reason You’re Single? The Procrastinator’s Guide to Creating Space for Your New Relationship
Do you buy stuff when you’re bored, or to feel better when you’re down… and is your house overflowing with all the things you’ve bought?
Do you hold onto things for longer than you should just in case, maybe one day you will need it?
What if I told you all the clutter you’ve accumulated is what’s holding you back from your ideal man and the loving relationship you desire…?
My guest, Peter Walsh is the New York Times bestselling author of Let it Go: Downsizing Your Way to a Richer, Happier Life. He offers consultations for organizations to improve employee satisfaction and effectiveness and with individuals who want to declutter their space. You can catch him and his message on television, radio, and Youtube.
How to Get the Relationship You Want by Clearing the Clutter [3:56]
Stuff maybe concealing who you really are. Whether it is physical stuff or emotional stuff it may be keeping you from the relationship you really want. If you buy stuff to pass the time or in search of the happiness it is supposed to bring you may be using it to hide your true nature.
The two main types of clutter we have in our homes are memory clutter and the ‘I might need it one day’ clutter. We often hold on to memory clutter even when it has a malignant, negative effect on our lives and our happiness. Consider all your stuff and ask yourself if those items help you create the vision of the life you want to live and the relationship you really want.
What do you want from your life, your home, and your relationship?
Stuck in the Past? [15:36]
Peter says when we hold on to our memory clutter it only serves to keep us stuck in the past. Until we can let go of the memories we can not move forward into the future we deserve.
From the time they were little girls, many women are trained to constantly try to achieve perfection. But that is in direct conflict with creating the life they really want.
Clear out the clutter and watch children dance in the open space!
Strategies to Clear the Clutter [20:06]
If you want to stop procrastinating and really work on removing your clutter, Peter recommends these three strategies.
1. Give time to what is important to you.
2. Remove the word later from your life.
3. Do the Trash Bag Tango.
4. Start with your physical space and it will be reflected in your emotional space.