Life Check Yourself Episode 320 – Love is Blind: Can You Create Chemistry Even if You Are Not Attracted? With Chris Gillis
Marni and Chris recap another episode of Season Two of Love is Blind. The couples are finally spending time together. They get 24-48 hours alone to see if the connections they made in the pods remain true. And, spoiler alert, love is not blind.
Key Takeaways from this Episode:
- Being clear about what you want
- Sabotaging a relationship because you are insecure
- Looks are not everything
- Core values are the most important thing in relationships
Masculine & Feminine Energy [2:03]
This episode of Love is Blind, kicks off with Mallory and Sal getting 48-hours alone to find out if their relationship has what it takes to survive an engagement. Mallory seems playful, feminine, and coy when interacting with Sal. But, when she speaks with Jarrette later in the show she drops into her masculine and sounds like a dude.
Chris says Mallory is walking around like a red flag by describing how different and deserving she is. He adds that it is probably a protective measure. Chris also notes that the outcome of the show is getting engaged, so Mallory’s hitting on Jarrette can be construed as emotional cheating.
Does Mallory want to be everybody’s bro or does she want to be the love interest?
Marni says that when we are left to our own devices, without accountability or self-awareness, many women sabotage relationships with great guys. It feels weird because a person is being nice to us and we don’t know what to do with it. Women unusually revert back to their familiar habits and go for the same old type of guy.
Looks Aren’t Everything: The Nerd Gets Insecure & Judgy [9:03]
In the pod portion of the show, hair and makeup must have been revved up because everyone looked like a jacked-up version of themselves. But in the most recent show, Deepti looked like a girl you would see at Walmart. There is nothing wrong with her naturalness which is why Shake wins the jerk of the year award.
Chris thinks Shake is desperate to leave his nerdy, chubby kid back in the past and wants to be super cool now that he has lost weight. He is insecure and feels not worthy so he judges others in the harsh light that others used to judge him.
Focusing on looks gets in the way of true love and intimacy because if you don’t have shared values you will not have real, long-term chemistry with the person.