Life Check Yourself Episode 318 – How to Know if That One Issue is Worth Breaking Up Over with Chris Gillis
Marni and Chris recap the third episode of Season Two of Love is Blind. The group finally leave the pods and head to Cancun to see if they are compatible face-to-face. Questions abound over the producers choice to make certain people disappear if the relationships they formed were not saucy or controversial enough.
Key Takeaways from this Episode:
- Being a second choice isn’t necessarily a bad thing
- Unless in a committed relationship it is OK to date other people
- Wanting someone to change for you
- The issues that are not worth breaking up over
Getting Together After He Tries Out the Other Girl [2:46]
In the episode, Jarret chooses between Mallory over Iyanna. Mallory flat out tells Jarret that she is not interested. She does it honestly and succinctly, which is how it should be. There should be no ghosting or ignoring text when telling a guy you are not interested.
Can a relationship work out if you know you were not the other person’s first choice?
Chris says we should all be dating other people before a commitment is made. That is how we get a clear understanding of what we like and what we don’t like. If we let our ego get in the way and take an initial rejection personally, we may miss out on a great opportunity.
When a guy says he likes someone else then shows up in your inbox a month or so later to reconnect, give him a second chance.
Looks Aren’t Everything [14:16]
Shaina tells Shayne she really likes him but Shayne says he likes Natalie. So, Shaina starts hanging with Kyle, who is a vegetarian. Shaina tells him if he wants to be with her he should eat meat. As soon as he eats meat, she leaves saying she is still attracted to Shayne.
When Natalie meets Shayne she quips that she thought he would be goofy. She obviously finds him physically appealing but something is a little off with their connection. Marni says she sees this all the time with her clients. They often want a guy to be who they want him to be so badly, that they continue to date him even if something is off.
Is an Issue Worth Breaking Up Over? [26:45]
In the episode another important point surrounding non-negotiables is brought up when Danielle is not happy that Nick uses organic toothpaste and homemade body wash. Should a personal choice be a deal breaker, or is it something that couples get used to?
Marni says people should spend more time ruling each other in, instead of ruling them out. Be curious about the other person and remember you have habits that someone else might find annoying. Would you want them not to date you because of them?