Dating Den Episode 195 – With Michal Stawicki: How to Finally Motivate Yourself to Date
Marni welcomes Michal Stawicki into the Den to discuss how to become the person you want to be. Michal is on a mission to support individuals who feel helpless, to expand beyond their limits to regain control over their lives. After years of not being fulfilled or content in his life, Michal read The Slight Edge by Jeff Olson. The book inspired him to change his life.
Key takeaways from this episode:
- Write a personal mission statement
- How to stay inspired when feeling unmotivated
- Journaling for self-discovery
- Create your roadmap to happiness
- Remove negative self-talk from your life
Stepping Up to the Challenge [3:14]
Michal points out that staying in the same place can give us the illusion of comfort but we end up with semi-pleasurable substitutions. To have the life we want we have to make real substantial changes. No one else can do it for us. We have to step up to the challenge and take actions that lead us to our goals.
Meditation and journaling help us to become self-aware of our internal needs. Michal recalls beating himself up and what a waste of time it was.
Are you spending too much time needlessly beating yourself up?
Creating a Personal Roadmap to Happiness [14:19]
If you can connect to your purpose or your why it can guide you during the moments when you feel like giving up or giving in. Making a personal mission statement is the constitution of who you want to be and the things you want for yourself.
You will never achieve your dreams by accident.
You can not start a journey and expect it to end if you do not know where you are going. You will never achieve your dreams by accident. If you want something, no one else will fight for it for you. No one else can make changes in your life. We may not be able to change our lives overnight but we can take daily steps toward our final goals.
The Power of Self-Talk [27:22]
Diminish your negative dialogue. Release the excuses, justifications, and rationale that is keeping you from acting in your best interest. Start by imagining who you want to become. Imagine how your life will be when you become that person. Write it down. Writing things helps them solidify into your reality. They become real things instead of concepts.
Even the smallest amount of joy acts like a vaccine against dark thoughts.
Tips to Change Your Mindset & Rewire Your Brain:
- Bring more joy into your life
- Begin gratitude journaling
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