Dating Den Episode 196 – Bachelorette Recap With Man Panelist Chris Gillis — The Nice Guy: How to Attract Them, Date Them, and Be Attracted to Them to Get Out of Your Romantic Rut
Marni and Chris discuss the passing off of the baton from Clare to Tayisha, the difference in the style of two Bachelorettes, and how wonderful it is to finally get to know the guys on the show.
Key takeaways from this episode:
- What it takes to be irresistible
- The importance of honesty and vulnerability
- How to date a couple of guys at the same time
- Looking beyond hotness to see a person’s true nature
The Clare and Dale Saga [1:38]
It took a total of nine days for Clare to meet, fall in love, and get engaged to Dale. Marni says while love, at first sight is possible, a solid relationship may require more than love.
Both Marni and Chris agree that Clare is setting Dale up for failure. She speaks for him and over him. She makes him out to be her knight in shining armor and her savior. We all know where that leads to right? It may make Dale feel like Superman now, down the road, when things get tough, it will always feel like he was the one who let things get sour. It’s too much responsibility for a guy. A relationship should be a partnership.
When you are in a partnership, people notice an opportunity to be part of a team and to shine in what they are good at.
Being Irresistible with Tayisha [12:36]
Later in the show, we are introduced to the new Bachelorette, Tayisha. She is instantly liked and the guys flock around her good energy. In contrast to Clare, Tayisha is a breath of fresh air. Chris discusses the characteristics that make her irresistible.
During her first date with Brendan, Tayisha says that she wants to be a mother and would like a lot of kids. Brendan replies in kind saying that being a Dad is important to him too. Chris and Marni discuss the flow of the conversation and why it wasn’t too soon for the pair to bring up their values and goals about a family.
When you have the right person, you can negotiate the details as a team.
Brenden’s great move was being vulnerable when he brought up his divorce. When a woman thinks a guy is funny, smart, well-rounded, or kind, their attractiveness factor goes way up.
Vulnerability creates chemistry and connection.
Breaking Up with Dignity [32:38]
And sadly, we had to say goodbye to the guy Chris Gillis has a man-crush on, cute, honest, manly, emotionally-available, Jason. He announced he had feelings for Clare and he didn’t feel right taking up one of the other guy’s time with Tayisha.
A quality guy will tell you the truth even if it’s bad news.
Dating Tips from this Bachelorette Episode:
- Be open, vulnerable, and authentic
- It’s ok to date more than one guy at a time
- Be honest about how you feel
- Let your partner speak for themselves
