Dating Den Episode 66 – With Courtney: Breaking It Off With A “Bad For You Guy” — After 7 Years Of Trying Unsuccessfully, Courtney Finally Learns How To Do It Right
Have you ever taken crumbs from a guy for way too long…
Let him treat you like an option… while you treat him as a priority?
The truth is there are a ton of smart, successful women (like you) that attract guys that run HOT and COLD…
Or guys that come on strong and then go cold, or even DISAPPEAR completely…
During today’s PODCAST, Courtney learns how to get back into integrity with herself because she’s FINALLY become fed up with a long-term relationship she doesn’t feel safe in.
We talk about how to set boundaries, so that she can feel emotionally safe and live in her vision.
More than a Lack of Commitment [1:52]
Courtney met James nine years ago but their relationship hasn’t progressed the way she wants it to. They are very close but she knows he has commitment issues. Courtney has made it clear to James that she wants to find a full-time partner. When she brings the subject up, James says doesn’t want to get married, tells her to accept their relationship as it is and then hides for two-days before resurfacing.
She doesn’t trust him and thinks he has been with other women during their nine-year relationship.
Honesty is the best policy.
Stepping into Integrity [7:41]
Courtney doesn’t feel emotionally safe in the relationship. In all other areas of her life she exudes integrity and strength, but in her relationship with James her words and actions are not matching up. She knows that she is compromising her own desires because she is afraid to be single and look for a new partner.
Stop Talking and Start Doing [13:14]
When James comes out of his hidey-hole, and to live in integrity with herself, Courtney is going to tell him the relationship is not what she wants. She needs to start thinking about herself, what her long-term goals are and where she wants to be in five years. She is going to set her boundaries and start living as a woman committed to her vision.
Moving Past the Pain [19:35]
Once Courtney aligns herself with what is important to her she must do what is right for the little girl that she created this pattern to protect. Even though she knows it won’t be easy, with confidence and grace she will end the relationship with James and start trusting herself and her gut again.
Find personal freedom by being integrity with yourself.