Life Check Yourself Episode 412 Are You Being Controlling? Or Is It The Only Way To Get Sh#t Done? with Veronica Amaya
Marni welcomes Veronica Amaya in the Life Check Yourself studio, where they discuss how to elevate your relationship game and communicate with your partner in a way to get them to listen. Veronica is a relationship and dating coach, and the founder of the Conscious Relationship School. She has helped thousands of women and men overcome dating anxiety and break unhealthy relationship patterns.
Takeaways from this episode:
- Men are team players
- You attract what you believe
- How to communicate softly
Leave Your Judgment at the Door [05:15]
Sometimes, the blame that women attribute to men stems from a place of self-protection and self-preservation. However, when you date with these negative stereotypes about men living in the back of your mind, you end up interpreting everything your partner does through that lens.
You also end up attracting the type of person you fear most.
If you believe a certain thing then you’re going to have that experience. We have to look at how you create those new beliefs that will reflect what you want.
Trust Him to Lead [13:00]
It’s important for the man in a relationship to feel really strong in himself so that he can be secure in the knowledge that he is capable of handling things.
When you start putting more trust in your partner, very often he’s going to show up in ways you didn’t expect.
I think once the butterflies and rainbow part of a relationship is over, these are the things that can sabotage a really good relationship.
The Medium is the Message [19:00]
It’s about communicating softly. It’s in the way you say things. That doesn’t mean that you need to stay silent but rather that you need to say things in a kind and soft way.
Many women go immediately into anger. Men are usually logic-oriented. So, if you give him this problem to fix, he will respond.
Sometimes that means that you won’t get your needs met immediately. Sometimes, you’re going to have a lot of pain that comes up too. That’s part of softness.