Life Check Yourself Episode 403 Powerful Ways to Turn Off The Narcissist with Jamie Cannon
Marni welcomes Jamie Cannon in the Life Check Yourself studio, where they discuss how to recognize a narcissistic personality, what the tell-tale signs of a murky relationship are and how to get out of it. Jamie is a writer who focuses on trauma, anxiety and grief. She’s worked on empowering women particularly victims of abuse and domestic violence survivors.
Takeaways from this episode:
- Trust your instincts
- Know the signs
- How to recognize love bombing
Recognizing the Signs [04:02]
There is this misconception that associates being stuck in an abusive relationship with a lack of education. However, it can happen to anyone.
A lot of educated women fall either for narcissists or with personalities that have narcissistic tendencies. In the beginning of a relationship, the person they are attracted to either hides these tendencies or uses very sophisticated manipulation techniques.
Moreover, sometimes when a woman is adamant on what she wants, which is to settle down and build a future, it’s easy to overlook those subtle warning signs.
Women beat themselves thinking I should’ve seen it coming but really, should you have seen it coming?
Power and Control [07:20]
The beginning of a relationship blurs a lot of the way we perceive things. It is the phase where everything is exciting and rushed, which means that sometimes, we end up ignoring our intuition. Trust your instinct rather than making excuses for the person’s behavior. Many women tend to ignore their intuition because they have been taught to believe that they are oversensitive or that they read too much into things.
Narcissists, as we say, there’s no empathy there. So, their feelings are really the only feelings that matter.
Where Do We Find Their Value? [14:04]
A lot of women find their value externally. Learning how to find that value from an internal source is important. That is what gives you the freedom to walk away. Whereas somebody who gets their value externally, will be more inclined to stay and frame the situation as a life lesson.
At what point do we stop and say, hold on I know what I need to work on already. This guy does not know what I need to work on.
