Dating Den Episode 140 – With Marni Battista: I Wish Someone Would Just Tell Me What to Say to Get a Man to Pursue Me
Just like every other part of your life, love is something you can solve. When you want to learn about finances, or how something works you do the research and study to become educated about the subject and then you follow the process. Finding a high-caliber man is like that. In this episode, Marni shares five shifts that will solve your specific love problem. Once you make these five shifts your love life will be completely different.
Key takeaways from this episode:
- How to speak your authentic truth from your heart
- How to leverage your power
- How to inspire men to pursue and commit to you
- How to use your time during the pandemic to get the intimate relationship you want
You Have to Speak Your Truth [15:29]
Often, the biggest challenge we have as women is speaking our truth. In order to shift our situation, we have to admit to ourselves when we want something. We minimize our feelings and punish ourselves for wanting things.
But, why is it hard for high-powered successful women to speak up when it comes to love and relationships? Why do we clam up when we meet a guy we are attracted to? Why do we over-analyze everything we say or do? Why do we tend to put men’s needs first?
If something doesn’t shift you will continue to push a man away and substantially lower your chances of having an authentic, intimate connection.
You can create desire and intimacy with men you want to attract without feeling like you are settling.
It’s Not What You Say But How You Say It [18:55]
After taking the first step and becoming honest with yourself about what you want, then you need to express what you want in a way that gets your needs met and that doesn’t push him away.
You have to speak from your heart because that is what a high-quality guy is attracted to. Men are attracted to the feminine, vulnerable part of you. The part you have been burying all these years. If you make this shift there is nothing a man will not do to make you happy.
Men don’t want to date a dude in a skirt. Speak from your heart, not from your head.
Inspire Men to Pursue You & Commit to You [25:45]
You must come from a place of 100% authenticity and confidence when you speak with a high-quality man. This will be what makes you stand out from every other woman he meets. The problem is there is 10% of you putting up a guard, or a love shield. It is keeping you stuck in your head and is sabotaging every interaction you have with a man. Until you lose the 10% you will never attract the type of man you are looking for.
Wishing and hoping the right guy will reach out to you is not a good strategy. A high-quality guy man will not magically appear. That only happens in the movies. You don’t have to spend a ton of time and energy to get a man. You only need to shed the 10% that is sabotaging you.
You are attracting the wrong men or repelling the right guys for a reason.
Discover the 10% that is holding you back by:
- Reveal — Uncover your unique 10%
- Release — Let go or lose the 10%
- Rejuvenate — Adopt a strategy that makes you irresistible
4. Leverage Your Power [43:03]
Smart women need to leverage their power. Most of their power is being used to over-analyze, problem solve, and control things. This type of behavior creates a massive disconnect with the guys you are attracted to. When you start speaking your authentic truth from the heart and you lose the 10% that kills desire, you will become irresistible to great guys and they will pursue you.
When you learn to leverage your power authentically it will put your results with men into hyperdrive.
5. Invest in Mentoring [49:35]
You need more than advice. If you could have done it on your own, you would be with a high-quality guy already. In every part of your life, you figure things out, you do what needs to be done and you make your wants a reality.
Do not be embarrassed or ashamed that you need help in this part of your life. Do not think getting help is a sign of weakness. It is not.
It’s OK to have someone hold your hand through this process and keep you accountable. Get support from a mentor.
If you are finally done with being alone, one of the most self-honoring things you can do during the pandemic is to claim out loud that being in an intimate relationship is what you want.
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