Dating Den Episode 107 – With Suzanne: I Meet Men Who Don’t Really Commit, Help Me Marni Fix This Now!
Are you sabotaging yourself early on in a relationship?
Do you have trouble being the sexy, funny, awesome woman that men want when you’re around guys that you’re attracted to?
Do you feel like the men you really like aren’t that into you…
And the guys you think are ‘meh’, want you for a relationship?
Do you keep attracting emotionally unavailable men and don’t know WHY?
Then this episode is for you!
In this one-on-one client session, Marni welcomes Suzanne to share her story.
Suzanne can’t seem to get past the first or second date with guys she is meeting. Her last date ended with a total clash in values. She has done a ton of work on herself but feels like there is some unconscious crap keeping her stuck.
Are You Afraid of Getting Hurt or Is It Something Else? [1:34]
Suzanne describes her past relationships. She has been married and divorced twice and has had two other significant relationships in her life. Her self-worth was low when she met her first husband. Her second marriage lasted 20-years but it beat her down. And, her two relationships since have been with emotionally unavailable men.
She still believes she is unworthy of having a guy who will stick with her for the long term.
Marni asks her to explain how is it serving her? Suzanne realizes if she feels she is always unworthy it also keeps her from committing.
Do You Choose To Survive or Thrive? [8:04]
Marni points out that by not feeling worthy Suzanne continues to attract men who won’t commit. She fears rejection and limits her courage for surviving but she doesn’t use it to thrive.
So, how does Suzanne want to experience the next part of her love life?
Is it worth opening her heart again?
Suzanne says she wants to experience true unabiding love. She doesn’t want to leave the planet without figuring relationship stuff out.
When she shows up on an in-person date she is more cautious about putting herself out there. Her fear is leaking into her communications, her dates, and the rest of her life. Suzanne decides she wants to show up on a date as herself like she is with her friends.
Listen to the language you use. It is the key to your true feelings.
Are You Being Vulnerable or Firehosing Your Dates? [22:08]
Suzanne admits to divulging a lot of information about herself early on when dating and she says it sometimes it scares guys away. When discussing what she does for a living she brings up spiritual/religious topics early on in the relationship — but it’s important to her.
It’s one of her dealbreakers.
Find out what Marni tells her so that she only attracts men that will make her a priority, AND how to make sure she doesn’t sabotage herself again!
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Make a Connection:
“You get to decide how you want to experience the next part of your life.”
“Are you being vulnerable on a date or firehosing people with too much information?”
“Rule someone out based on your dealbreaker parameters, not just that one thing that happened.”