Life Check Yourself Episode 464- “ How to Stop Screwing Yourself Over” with Katie Horwitch
In this week’s episode, Marni welcomes Katie Horwitch to the Life Check Yourself Studio. Katie is an author, speaker, mindset coach, and self-talk activist. She is the founder of WANT: Women Against Negative Talk, a platform that gives women tips, tools, motivation, and inspiration to live fearlessly by shifting their negative self-talk patterns. Her first book, Want Your Self: Shift Your Self-Talk and Unearth The Strength In Who You Were All Along, (10/3/23 Sounds True), guides you to change your self-talk at the deepest level—so you can move forward fearlessly into the life you were meant to live. The duo dive deep into the concept of self-talk—how the stories we tell ourselves shape our reality and how we can transform that narrative to live more authentically and fearlessly. They explore the challenges of overcoming negative self-talk, the importance of being honest with ourselves, and practical strategies for shifting our mindset to move forward in life.
- Understanding Self-Talk and Its Impact
- Overcoming Negative Self-Talk
- The Role of Emotionally Heavy Words
Understanding Self-Talk and Its Impact (08:45)
Self-talk is the ongoing story we tell ourselves about ourselves as we navigate through life. It’s not inherently good or bad; it’s the information we process and what we do with that information that truly matters.
“Self-talk isn’t inherently good or bad. It’s information, and what we do with that information informs what we do next.”
Overcoming Negative Self-Talk (22:30)
The process of overcoming negative self-talk involves more than just “flipping the script.” It requires identifying the underlying beliefs and gradually building a foundation of self-worth. Simply replacing negative thoughts with positive ones doesn’t work if we don’t believe in the new narrative. The guest emphasizes the need to address the root cause of negative beliefs and to be realistic in our self-talk shifts.
“You can’t just flip the script on negative self-talk. It’s about recognizing the belief behind it and making a realistic shift.”
The Role of Emotionally Heavy Words (35:15)
Emotionally heavy words, like “hate” and “ugly,” carry significant weight and can deeply influence our emotions and actions. It’s essential to be mindful of the language we use with ourselves and others.These words often hijack our emotional state, making it harder to move forward.
“Emotionally heavy words can hijack the entire moment. Be mindful of the language you use with yourself.”
