Life Check Yourself Episode 329 – With Amber Grubenmann: How Sex Impacts The How to Go From Dating to Exclusive Formula
Have you ever met a guy you thought could be ‘the one’…
And you thought about having sex with him to make him see that you were the right woman for him?
Maybe you tried telling him how much you like him…
Or made a special dinner for him one night when he had to work late?
And after all that, maybe he told you he wasn’t sure if he wants to settle down with anyone, or even if he’s ready for a girlfriend?
And that’s when you thought about sleeping with him before you were ready?
Marni welcomes fellow podcast dating host Amber Grubenmann to the Life Check Yourself studio. Amber is the creator of the highly-rated Women’s Dating and Confidence Podcast plus she helps ladies go from just dating to exclusive through her coaching programs.
Key takeaways from this episode:
- Why women have sex before they are ready
- Tips for creating a long-term, meaningful relationship
- Exploring your inner sexiness
- Men’s expectations around sex
Set the Stage for the Type of Relationship You Want [1:50]
Amber shares some of the most common comments she hears from the women she works with about their mindset around why they have had sex early in a relationship or when they may not be ready:
- If he has sex with me it means he likes me.
- I need to show him how good it is.
- If he doesn’t get it from me, he’s going to get it from someone else.
- I need to see if we are sexually compatible.
- If I don’t have sex with him, I will disappoint him.
Amber explains exactly what to do if you want to go from dating to exclusive.
There are things you can do in dating that increase the probability of a certain type of relationship.
How to Cultivate the Right Mindset [10:28]
Relationships are a human need and men really want them. Taking the time in the early stages of a relationship to see if a man has the emotional qualities you are looking for will give you the opportunity to explore the sexual connection.
To get what you want, you have to talk about it and ask for it.
Bringing Sexy Back [18:02]
Everyone wants to feel sexy. But, often we have things that hold us back from feeling fully into our sexuality. Amber offers some tips women can use to get comfortable with their bodies and their sexuality.
Many women believe that men have certain expectations around sex because some have felt the pressure to have sex at some point in their lives.
But, sex will never create security in a connection. So, if you are looking for a long-term commitment, leading with sex doesn’t give you the emotional security you need for long-term happiness.