Life Check Yourself 439 – 10 Examples of What Gaslighting Looks Like (Hidden Signals) with Dr. Amelia Kelley
Marni welcomes Dr. Amelia Kelley to the Life Check Yourself studio where the duo delves into the notion of gaslighting and how to spot it when it’s happening. Amelia who is a hypnotherapist and an art therapist, discusses the prototypes that are most likely to get gaslit. Dissecting the different types of gaslighting, she explains the personality traits that can play a role in whether or not a person will get gaslit as well as how to avoid a gas-lighter.
- How to know when you’re being gaslit.
- Stand firm in your truth
- How to distance yourself
Are You Just Being Immature? [07:18]
The term gaslighting gets thrown around lightly, and a lot. However, there are times where it is not a gaslighting situation. You’re just having a disagreement. Gaslighting is a form of emotional manipulation and abuse that is intended to control, contort and alter your sense of reality and your sense of self.
There are so many ways it can impact your self-esteem, your interpersonal relationships, your goals and just everything.
Confuse and Conquer [13:27]
Gaslighting thrives on keeping the person at the receiving end confused and doubting their own reality. Good news is the first step to avoid being gaslit is understanding and detecting when it happens. It’s about being aware of it.
Distancing yourself from gaslighting is the only true way to cut yourself off from its impact.
A Never-Ending Cycle [19:10]
One of the psychological aspects of gaslighting is that it’s a cycle that can be gratifying but it’s important to set boundaries. More so, practicing emotional individuation and not letting others rewrite your personal experiences are all steps you can take towards dealing with gaslighting.
The whole purpose is to cut down your self-esteem or your confidence. They don’t want you to have self-confidence.
