There are so many rules regarding “how to be in your feminine energy with a man”. They float through the Internet, radio, and television and make it increasingly difficult to know exactly what the world expects. What’s more, there’s a lot of misconceptions about feminine energy.
What is Feminine Energy?
The type of feminine energy that we’re aiming at here, is not one that can be accomplished with fake lashes, long nails or dressing head to toe in pink (Not that there is anything wrong with that!). Instead, it is the sort of energy that emanates from within and enables you to have a fulfilling relationship with a masculine man, without sacrificing yourself or pretending to be someone you’re not. We all possess both energies, the masculine and the feminine, with one being particularly dominant, mainly feminine energy being more dominant in women and masculine energy being more dominant in men. Nonetheless, our upbringing, lifestyles, personalities or careers can result in a disturbance in these energies, making some women tap into their masculine energy or some men tap into their feminine (a.k.a. the beta male).
What Is It Like To Be In Your Feminine Energy?
If feminine energy is more dominant, a person would be characterized by;
- Creativity
- Empathy
- Ability to nurture others
- Patience
- Intuition
- Good communication skills
- Abstract thinking
- Connected with his/her emotions
How to Be in Your Feminine Energy With A Man
1. Let Yourself Receive.
My colleague Mat Boggs describes this concept as “Joyful Receiving.” He urges women to simply let men “do” for them. From allowing him to pay for your parking, carry your gym bag, connect your DVD player to the television, choose the table at a restaurant, and drive thirty-five miles to your neighborhood for a date, all you need to do to play into your feminine is to say, “Yes, thank you.”
2. Give up the need to be right.
While I am not suggesting that you stop engaging in playful banter or expressing your own beliefs or point of view, telling him why your directions to the restaurant are better than his is not the best demonstration of your feminine energy. In fact, the need to be right is fundamentally “alpha male,” and a man will not be attracted to another alpha. The men I have interviewed and work with agree: Criticizing his choice or telling him he is wrong is a definite turn-off. Remember, if you truly desire a relationship, check your need to be right at the door. Remember that sometimes it is better to be smart than to be right.
3. Busy versus active.
You want to show the world that your life is full and interesting, that you are independent and can take care of yourself, but telling a man how “busy” you are may backfire, giving him the impression that you don’t have time for a partnership. And what many women don’t understand is that a man wants to be with a woman who needs him—for something. And, let’s face it ladies, while you don’t need a man, you wouldn’t be here if you didn’t at least want one in your life! When your very awesome life has resulted in a full schedule and a man asks you out, don’t respond by telling him how busy you are and that you’ll have to “let him know.” Instead, tell your suitor, “I am super active these days, but I would love to see you. How does your Thursday look?” This will land much softer, (and thus exude more of that feminine mystique men love) and show him that while your life rocks, there may actually be room for him in it for him if he is lucky.
