Men Are
The Life Of The Party Woman
Your Beliefs
Life of the Party Women ultimately believe, in their core, that men will only like or love them if they can “get” something from them—whether that is sex or financial support or something else. She is also the “cool” girl and prides herself on being like a “dude,” in that she can compartmentalize easily. (For example, she may rationalize hooking up and first-date sex as something that is justified because he’s “not the one.”) Most important, this lifestyle leaves them feeling like they’re living double lives—pretending not to care and as if things don’t hurt, yet filled with regret and feeling unseen, worn out, and sad. They are excellent at saying they can compartmentalize, but underneath they’re not as tough as they seem
How This Belief Serves You
You get to feel safe AND superior. In fact, you feel your worth and lovability is connected to being cool, aloof and not “needing” anything from men. You get to live “in the moment” rather than taking responsibility for your long-term relationship goals. People perceive you as “together,” and you may even get validation for being “cool” and/or manipulative with men. You feel in control when you get to reject men, and it makes you feel safe. You don’t have to be vulnerable, compromise, or deal with your feelings. Things are easily buried and enable you to rationalize, justify, and cope with everything that happens. You “move on” quickly
The Dating with Dignity Principle You Loose Sight Of
My feelings are important. My past does not define me. I am loveable. I forgive myself and others
The Consequences of Holding On to This Belief
You will continue to attract men who are emotionally unavailable. You may wait for him to “change.” You get used to having crumbs and thus accept small bits of love and affection rather than asking for the whole cake. You carry shame, regret and remorse. You will not experience receiving love wholeheartedly because your man may be emotionally unavailable. You may not feel connected to other women or have strong friendships with women, which causes you to feel as though you don’t fit in. You may worry about the future, aging, or what people think of you. Your health may be compromised.
Your Goal
Self-forgiveness. Living in the present. Forgiveness of the past. Realize your worth is not based on sexuality, sex, or not having needs. Access your emotions and discover your femininity. Learn to navigate between masculine and feminine roles effortlessly to attract the right type for you
What Interferes with Your Goal
Lack of self-worth. Feeling that if you don’t perform or have needs, you won’t be accepted or loved. Being defensive and judgmental (of yourself and others). Not taking responsibility for your actions. Blaming. An inability to identify and articulate your needs. Poor communication skills.
Next Steps
Take a few minutes to journal on one of the three belief statement below that most resonates with you, noticing how the past is impacting your present dating results.Where did you first learn this belief? How is it keeping you safe? What would it take to leave this belief in the past? Make a decision to leave the past in the past.
1. A quality man will not love me because of the mistakes I made in my past
2. I need to be in control in all my relationships because otherwise I will get hurt.
3. I don’t trust men.
So, why don’t quality men see you as The One?
As the Life of The Party Woman, your thoughts and beliefs that you are somehow less than and a lack of self-worth are leaking when you’re around the men you like.You are sending men the wrong message, without even realizing it. The truth is, women that appear to have low self-esteem, is the number one dating turn off for the Life of The Party Woman. And sends the energy that causes you to attract losers and players.
Here at DWD, we have an amazing tool that will help you uncover exactly where and when you are leaking this bad energy, and WHY you’ve been unable to find real and lasting love. The women that watch our workshop, “5 Steps My Clients Use To Finally Have A Man Who Makes Them Feel Loved, Respected and Valued” discover the exact things they’re doing, saying, and thinking that repel men they want to attract. As well as WHAT you have to do to turn it around and get a sexy, successful, and available man to adore you, fall in love with you, become obsessed with you, and see you as the woman he wants to grow old with. Think about it: you’re attractive, successful, and intelligent. You should be in an amazing relationship right now!
Take Action Now and Leave the Life Of The Party Woman Behind!
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