Men Are
The Tough Woman
Your Beliefs
Many Tough Women are “black-and-white” thinkers, judging everything, everyone, and every experience as either good or bad. Tough Women can be perceived as aloof or as women who like to “play games.” Many are workaholics and subscribe to the idea that “If men don’t like me the way I am, then it’s their loss.”They may hear that they are “intimidating” to men. They often say that men who are attracted to them are “not [my] type.”
The Tough Woman will wonder, silently to herself, “Why have I been successful at everything but dating?”
How This Belief Serves
You get to feel safe, and you are “right” about everything related to dating and relationship. (For example, dating IS hard. There ARE no good men in my town.)You stay in control. You get to tell the world that you’re “trying” and that the circumstances beyond your control are what’s keeping you stuck. You feel good at work; it’s where you feel like you’re in control. So being busy at work is a great reason to isolate, not have “time” to date, but get credit for trying. Men never live up to your expectations, so you will never be rejected, disappointed or heartbroken.
The Dating with Dignity Principle You Lose Sight Of
Femininity is vulnerability. There is no need to control my life. Things are unfolding perfectly for me, and I am safe.
The Consequences of Holding On to This Belief
You will continue to attract men who are not your “type,” and you will be at risk for missing out on the good guys. You may convince yourself that you don’t have to “settle.” But in reality, you’re simply keeping a wall around you that prevents you not only from connecting with men but from feeling connected in other areas of your life as well. Finally, you may suffer from exhaustion and burnout, waking up one day to realize that “work won’t ever love you back.”
Your Goal
Take off the “boxing gloves” and turn on your femininity.
What Interferes with Your Goal
Fear of getting hurt. Fear of being out of control. Fear of having to give up your safety and independence if a man is in your life. Looking for evidence in your life, the media and other outside sources that you are “right” about all your beliefs pertaining to men, dating, relationships, femininity, and love.
Next Steps
Take a few minutes to journal on one of the three belief statements below that most resonates with you, noticing how the past is impacting your present dating results. Where did you first learn this belief? How is it keeping you safe? What would it take to leave this belief in the past? Make a decision to leave the past in the past.
1. Being vulnerable equals being helpless.
2. Feminine equals weak.
3. I need to protect myself or I will get taken advantage of.
You know by now that something you’re doing is repelling the very men you’re trying to attract.
So, why don’t quality men see you as The One?
As the Tough Woman, you are leaking too much ‘masculine energy’ and at all the wrong times. You are sending men the wrong message, without even realizing it. And that doesn’t mean you appear ‘manly’. The truth is, for the Tough Woman, unconsciously leaking masculine energy is the number one dating turn off for quality men.
Here at DWD, we have an amazing tool that will help you uncover exactly where and when you are leaking masculine energy, and WHY you’ve been unable to find real and lasting love.
Here at DWD, we have an amazing tool that will help you uncover exactly where and when you are leaking masculine energy, and WHY you’ve been unable to find real and lasting love.
The women that watch our workshop “5 Steps My Clients Use To Finally Have A Man Who Makes Them Feel Loved, Respected and Valued” discover the exact things they’re doing, saying, and thinking that repel men they want to attract. As well as WHAT you have to do to turn it around and get a sexy, successful, and available man to adore you, fall in love with you, become obsessed with you, and see you as the woman he wants to grow old with. Think about it: you’re attractive, successful, and intelligent. You should be in an amazing relationship right now!
Take Action Now and Leave the Tough Woman Behind!
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