He might tell you that you’re “amazing,” but he just can’t commit to anything right now, or come up with any excuse why he just can not commit at the moment.
He might share info, which gives you the FALSE idea that you’re emotionally intimate. Stories (including past heartache) don't count as being able to express feelings.
You would typically find him shying away from any conversation that involves your relationship, your feelings or any long-term plans.
He’ll always portray himself to be in the midst of some sort of a crisis. Without you realizing, you’ll find yourself sucked in his drama and always having to be there for him.
He pursues you hard at the beginning and pushes for physical or emotional intimacy. But once he's won you over, he pulls away and often disappears for a week or two.
He may surprise you with a weekend getaway only to cancel on you several times in the next week or show up and shower you with love and affection only to ghost you the next day
You’ll find him mirroring you both in actions and words, nodding his head and saying things like “I feel the same”, without him expressing any emotions of his own.
A man who is running from his emotions desperately needs a distraction. So, you might find him throwing himself in work, addicted to working out, drinking alcohol, watching porn etc.
These aforementioned strategies are meant to control you. Once he realizes he is in control, he’ll vanish mysteriously, resurface unannounced only to vanish again.
If a guy is asking lots of questions about your whereabouts, your past or seem to mistrust you for some reason, it’s time to grab your sneakers and run for the hills!
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