Dating Den Episode 248 – Bachelorette Recap with Chris Gillis: When is the Right Time to Share Your Past?
This episode of the Bachelorette features a never-before-seen moment in TV history. Fans who watched were able to celebrate Katie saying goodbye to the villain before the lame drama started, Nick Viall shows up for no reason, and guys expose vulnerable moments from their past.
Key Takeaways from this Episode:
- The right time to discuss your past
- Ask follow up questions for clarity
- Why believe a guy when he tells you who he is
- Guys getting vulnerable makes for good television
Sharing is Caring [1:44]
In this episode, Katie had a second date with a group of guys and asked them to share something vulnerable. Marni and Chris agree it was a great segment. Most of the guys sincerely shared very personal things they were ashamed of or bad choices they made. One guy got emotional and cried.
Katie was compassionate and shared a vulnerable moment from her past. She explained why she is #sexpositive.
When is it the right time to share your back story? Marni recommends sharing vulnerabilities on the third or fourth date. Don’t wait until you are six months to a year into a relationship. It’s too late.
Getting Rid of the Villian [11:24]
Even if the producers wanted to keep the drama high, Katie dumped Carl before he had a chance to wreak havoc. A new contender for the dislikeable character award reared his head up though, Thomas. Instead of sharing something vulnerable, Thomas pushed his agenda by saying he is only on the show to build his platform. Both Marni and Chris agree that he put his cards on the table and was truthful about who he was but who he is doesn’t make good partner material.
A mistake many women make is thinking they can change a guy or the chemistry is so amazing they don’t really listen to when a guy tells them who he is.
