Dating Den Episode 229 – Bachelor Recap: With Chris Gillis — What are the Signs it is Still Not the Time to Have Sex with Your Man?
On this week’s Bachelor recap, Marni and Chris discuss this week’s Fantasy Suite episode. Matt James aka the robot shed a tear this week yet still refused to give Bri or Michelle an answer when they professed their love for him. Marni offers advice for when you encounter this type of behavior in your dating life.
Key Takeaways from this Episode:
- How to spot an emotionally unavailable guy
- Dating a guy with commitment issues?
- Having sex to seal the deal
- Is this season of the Bachelor the lamest ever?
Is Matt James Ready to Commit? [1:55]
At the beginning of the show, only Bri, Michelle, and Rachael remained for the fantasy suite date. The setup is an overnight date with no cameras so the possibility of sex exists.
Matt admits he is a bit guarded and probably a bit of a robot at the beginning of his conversation with his dad. Marni says it was weird to have that type of conversation on TV.
Matt is just now starting to realize he has some issues to work through. He is still in the victim phase blaming it on his father. Chris says Matt is still green, not ready to commit because he has never really had a girlfriend. It is almost as if Matt realized he is supposed to propose to a woman in two weeks and he is freaking out on the inside.
If you are dating someone who has issues when you mention a committed relationship be super-cautious.
Bri & Michelle tell Matt they are in love with him and ask him where he is at. He doesn’t directly answer. He is just starting on his self-discovery journey. He is not ready to marry yet. Despite this revelation, Chris thinks he will make a great husband one day.
Radio Silence When it Comes to Love [14:06]
When dating, if you feel safe enough to tell a guy you love them and he doesn’t acknowledge what you said, then moves in for a kiss you probably do not want to sleep with them at that point. You may not even want that kiss.
Only the ladies and Matt know if they had sex in the fantasy suite.
Chris says this was not a fun episode. The fantasy suite episodes in previous seasons were fun. Marni blames the producers for not being creative. The episode was boring even visually as everything looked the same. All three encounters were too formulated.
Chris drills Marni about why she picks on Matt so much. He asks if it would be better if Matt was saying stuff he doesn’t mean? Why does she call him a f*%kboy when she could clearly see Matt’s guilt when the girl walked away the next morning? Matt probably felt bad knowing the overnight meant more to the girl than to him.
Marni says of Matt James, he is charming and has potential. She doesn’t think he is evil, but she believes he is a hit it and quit it type of guy.
In next week’s finale, Matt will decide between Michelle and Rachael.