Dating Den Episode 176 – With Lori Dennis: What Are the Conscious Choices You Must Make So You Can Connect with a High-quality Guy?
Marni welcomes Lori Dennis into the Den to talk about finding balance in four quadrants of your life. Lori runs a top LA interior design firm, and she is an HGTV celebrity. Lori decided to write Quadrant Life: Balancing Relationships, Finances, Wellness, and Your Spiritual Life as a result of the constant questions others asked her about how she always seemed to have it all. She is a TED speaker and has been featured in the Wall Street Journal and on Bravo and Oxygen.
Key takeaways from this episode:
- Making happiness a choice
- How to find balance in your life
- Strategies for cleaning up your messes
- Figure out what happiness means for you
Living the Quadrant Life [3:56]
One of the biggest misconceptions/excuses women believe is that they can’t have it all. Lori says this is ridiculous. Women can have it all. They only need to get everything into balance. She says happiness comes when you wake up every single day and no matter what happens you know you can handle it.
But, if happiness is a choice, why do many of us try to make things more challenging? Lori recommends asking yourself what happiness looks like for you. It’s all about your perceptions and your experiences. Being happy is one of the best decisions you can make for yourself.
Find balance in these four quadrants:
Once you stop being afraid, you have the ability to clean up your messes.
Tips for Finding Balance in the Quadrants [19:17]
To attain proper balance in the four quadrants, Lori says, it’s like cleaning your house. Her personal approach is to attack the thing that is scary or hard first. Once she accomplishes what she believes to be the hardest thing it gives her confidence to tackle the less stressful items in her life.
Marni shares an example of how she took a deep dive to uplevel her spiritual practice and it up-leveled everything else in her life.
Lori says, focusing in one area is a good approach because if you just change one thing that isn’t working for you it will change every other part of your life. Small positive changes automatically affect every other quadrant.
Tips for Up-leveling each Quadrant:
- Relationships — Learn how to say no.
- Finance — Consider purchases for 2 days before taking action.
- Wellness — Get up and move.
- Spirituality — Pay it forward once a week.
Changing Your Environment [31:45]
Instead of wishing you had different things in life, it is up to you to make your life exactly the way that you want it. You can have it all. Having freedom in your environment will affect you in a good way. Remove excess material stuff you don’t need and be thoughtful about your environment.
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