Dating Den Episode 111 – With Michael Sorensen: The Surprisingly Simple Skill You Need to Create Connection in Less than 30 Seconds
How do you get a man to open up?
What if there was a simple way to connect with men in a genuine way, so that they’re naturally attracted to you…
and feel comfortable revealing themselves?
Would you like to learn how to cut through all the uncomfortable awkwardness and create an authentic connection with a guy you liked, so that it could lead to a lasting relationship?
Then this episode is for you!
Marni welcomes Author Michael Sorensen into the den today to talk about the value of validation. Michael is an expert on listening and relationship skills. He uses a real-world approach when he talks with women about what they can do differently to create long-lasting relationships.
Why Long-Term Relationships Work [2:25]
Michael shares a personal dating experience that eventually led to him writing his book. In dating or in a relationship the way you respond to the other person plays a major role in how long your relationship will last. If you share interests with your date or partner and respond accordingly you are more likely to form a bond with that person.
Knowing how to validate others can have a big impact on your dating life.
Validation is made up of two parts, one it identifies a specific emotion and two, offers justification for feeling that emotion. You have to connect with the person on some level. Effective validation requires empathy, effort, and authenticity. To practice validation even if the subject doesn’t interest you try asking a follow-up question to show effort.
Are You Making Any of These Common Validation Mistakes [16:16]
Being present is super-important in today’s world. When someone wants to talk, put down your phone, turn off the tv or close your laptop. Your authenticity will shine through and the other person will feel validated from your sincere effort to hear them.
When someone comes to you with a difficult situation they don’t necessarily need advice or want you to fix their problem. They may just need some validation and empathy.
How to Make Someone Feel Comfortable Opening Up to You [26:00]
If you really want to get to connect with a person, learn how to validate. You will be shocked at how it transforms the dialogue. You can connect with anyone.
When we are curious about another person we ask questions in a way that doesn’t feel like an interview.
When we are creating relationships validation can be the skill that magically opens people up to help create chemistry and connection.
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