Life Check Yourself Episode 348 – The Subtle (and Not So Subtle) Ways You Are Sabotaging All Your Relationships with Chris Gillis & Dr. Emily
Chris Gillis and Dr. Emily join Marni to talk about what could be the best episode of the Bachelorette in a decade. Marni was at the edge of her seat. When the characters don’t play by the rules it causes conflict and breaks the format in a new way. Gabby’s plan is upended by her own insecurities, Jason just wants followers, and Rachel doesn’t have an authentic bone in her body.
Takeaways from this episode:
- Quit sabotaging your relationships
- How to spot a player who thinks he is a quality casual.
- Rachel becomes the female Clayton.
- Don’t make excuses, just tell a guy you are not interested.
Gabby Sabotages Herself
Gabby claims she is looking for a long-term relationship but she can’t seem to get out of her own way. While she recognizes her fear of being unlovable, she is creating her reality by wallowing in self-doubt.
Johnny and Jason are both out. Johnny freely admits he is a player who is not looking to be engaged. Jason, on the other hand, is a player who pretends he is a quality casual guy.
Chris’s theory is that Gabby got what was coming to her. She accepted the crumbs Jason tossed out and didn’t ask for more because she doesn’t feel worthy of love. She led with her guard up and almost predicted that guys would leave her and that is what is happening.
Gabby is a poster child for what not to do in dating.
The Fakest Faker — Rachel
Even though the internet doesn’t agree, Marni and Chris understand that Rachel is the female Clayton. Zach calls her inauthentic, probably because she oozes fakeness. She has led Zach on only to call him out about his age at the rose ceremony.
It is clear Rachel will not choose Zach. Dr. Emily questions what Rachel gets out of it and why she leads him on if she is not into him. Chris sternly advises women to not put a guy through that type of run-around. Don’t make lame excuses or put insincere obstacles in his way. Just be honest about how you feel and let a guy heal.
Rachel needs to get over herself. She wants everyone to be in love with her.
Rachel will probably choose Tino. Marni thinks he has been in love with Rachel since their first kiss.