Dating Den Episode 60 – With Julie: How to Stop Putting Up with Crap From a Guy, Now! The Real breakdown On How To Tell Him You’re Done Being His ‘Sort of’ Girlfriend
Is your guy sending inconsistent signals?
If he is confused about what he wants? If so, let him go.
Life is too short to be someone’s Geisha Girl!
Let’s Just Skip to the End [4:17]
Julie says she doesn’t understand why the process has to take so long? Why the dance of multiple dates? After 15 dates, shouldn’t she already know where the relationship is headed?
Julie is exhibiting Geisha Girl behaviors. Guys react one of two ways to Geisha Girls. One, “holy crap I have a girlfriend I never signed up for,” or two, I feel overwhelmed and can’t process it.
Making Assumptions About a Guy’s Values [9:53]
How do you know if a guy has the values you desire if you don’t know him longer than it takes to have 5 or even 15 dates? A man needs to show you his values through his actions, consistently over time, and until he does, how do you know he is what you believe him to be?
Julie understands that our time on this earth is limited. She wants to know why she should have to wait 6-months to see if the guy is the one. But, by the third date she should share what her expectations are and her timeline to make sure the guys shares the same values and goals.
Ladies, leverage your assertiveness but do it in a feminine way.
Does He Have What it Takes or is He F’d Up? [20:19]
Julie describes her last interaction with a guy who constantly changes the game. He wants this, but then he feels smothered, blah, blah, blah.
Women need emotional safety in order to create true intimacy and he is not giving her any security. If he was really ready to be there for her, it wouldn’t be this hard. The guy’s inconsistency doesn’t make her feel safe.
It’s not your job to coach, fix or help a guy!