Dating Den Episode 109 – With Silvy Khoucasian: How to Speak Your Truth and Set Boundaries Even if You’re Afraid AF
The beauty of boundaries is that when we do them well it creates much more space for love and connection.
Are you attracted to a guy who won’t commit…
Do you only date guys that turn out to be unavailable…
Do you only get the crumbs of a relationship and you want the full meal?
In this episode, Marni welcomes the queen of boundary setting, Silvy Khoucasian into the Den. In all aspects of our lives, whether we dating, raising our kids, communicating with friends, we all need to set boundaries. Silvy is a master of helping struggling couples create a real connection.
If you want to know how to end the cycle of helpless frustration with men and in relationships…
And STOP going in the wrong direction and taking the wrong steps in situations and relationships with men…
So that YOU have the power to create an undeniable, magnetic attraction and devotion between you and a quality man that actually lasts…
This episode is for you.
What is a Boundary & How to Know When A Boundary Has Been Violated [2:52]
“A boundary is a limit. By the limits you set, you protect the integrity of your day, your energy and spirit, the health of your relationships and the pursuit of your heart. Each day is shaped by your choices and when you violate your own boundaries or let another person violate them the stuffing spills out of you.”
— Anne Katherine
We feel safe around people who respect our emotional boundaries, physical boundaries, intellectual boundaries or spiritual boundaries. When we are being violated we are being dismissed, invalidated, not respected.
We live in a time when we have exposure to so many things even dating choices. If we don’t create healthy boundaries around ourselves we can get lost in what the culture around us wants to feed us.
We can feel mean when we are first setting boundaries with a new person in our lives. But the more we communicate our boundaries we start to soften. Healthy boundaries prevent
Expanding our Definition of Boundaries [10:06]
While we are dating we want to learn what a man’s priorities and concerns are.
Men have 3 core vulnerabilities they show:
Fear of being a predator.
Fear of being incompetent.
Fear of rejection.
The golden nugget is to have clarity around your boundaries without building a wall. People who honor their own boundaries tend to be better at staying true to their own needs. People who struggle with this haven’t given themselves permission to have boundaries. Do you feel worthy enough to set personal boundaries?
Setting Boundaries for the First Time [16:00]
Silvy says it’s often women who feel guilty about setting boundaries. It can make women feel uncomfortable and counterintuitive to their nature. But it’s important we be around people who support our boundary.
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