Life Check Yourself Episode 281 – With Terri Cole: How to Set Boundaries and Get Your Needs Met at Work, with Loved Ones, and with Men
Are you a smart, successful woman who has a pretty great life but you’re struggling to navigate the dating world?
Do you wish that you really understood men, the way they think and how to talk (and text) to them?
Do you tend to attract unavailable men…
Do you have trouble setting boundaries, getting what you really want in a relationship and having your needs met?
Then this episode is for you!
Marni welcomes Licensed Psychotherapist Terri Cole to the Life Check Yourself podcast. Terri is a global relationship and empowerment expert, the author of Boundary Boss: The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen, and (Finally) Live Free, and podcast host. She offers up tips for single ladies who date, how-to say no with ease and grace, and her effective Boundary Blueprint.
Key Takeaways from this Episode:
- Effective Communication Skills
- How to Set Personal Boundaries
- How to Say No with Ease and Grace
- Dating Red Flags
Establishing Healthy Boundaries [2:41]
Terri describes boundaries as personal rules of engagement. They are rules specifically customized around our limits, values, and deal-breakers. They let people know how to treat us.
Terri says boundaries are a language we can learn.
The Boundary Blueprint [15:33]
If you don’t set boundaries, you will be a martyr only doing things for people out of a corrupted sense of responsibility.
To get started: Get clear about where you need a boundary, then
- Do a resentment inventory
- Make a simple request
- Don’t change the rules
Tips for Single Ladies [31:21]
Single women should value their time and not get stuck in the pen pal zone when a guy texts but won’t ask you out. Ask him to take things to the next level. Who has time to waste? Not empowered single women.
Set boundaries in the dating realm, early and often.
