Life Check Yourself Episode 340 – With Elisabeth Kristof: How to Rewire Your Attachment Style and Stop Reacting Like You Are Cra
Marni welcomes a certified Applied Neurology Practitioner who moves people out of pain, unwanted behavior, and stress response. Elisabeth Kristof is the founder of Brain-Based Wellness, an online platform that trains your nervous system and body to resolve old patterns, improve performance, and increase your well-being.
Takeaways from this episode:
- Tools to regulate the nervous system
- How to modify attachment styles
- What a well-functioning nervous system looks like
- How to respond instead of reacting
Regulating the Nervous System [2:03]
It is normal for humans to experience stress; by design, we are not supposed to be even-keel all the time. The problem comes when we get stuck in chronic states of stress and threat responses. It causes our nervous system to pump out hormones like cortisol and adrenaline which are not intended to be long-term solutions.
Too much stress for too long comprises the nervous system.
Elisabeth describes the different fear-stress responses our bodies go into and how they are translated into everyday life, including dating. These responses are reactive. We don’t consciously consider our actions during an extreme stress response. This can make us seem CRA. It triggers unhealthy love bonds we formed in childhood.
All behavior and attachment styles are survival-driven. This is how our brain keeps us healthy and safe.
A Well-Functioning Nervous System [16:42]
A well-functioning nervous system is able to modulate and change from different states. It should be able to accurately interpret real threats from a non-threatening situation. A well-functioning nervous system properly interprets threats, then produces an appropriate output.
A dysregulated nervous system keeps us stuck. It causes us to overeat, for our thoughts to be cloudy, and other drastic responses that don’t depict who we really are and what we really feel.
What does life look like when we are not constantly regulating our nervous systems to get back to baseline?
How Applied Neurology Reduces Stress [22:21]
Elisabeth practices Applied Neurology. Applied Neurology is the latest in brain science transformed into practical, actionable practices. It helps her clients take care of their operating systems by giving them good stimuli that create a new normal. She shares a practice we can do anywhere to help us regulate our nervous systems so we don’t react in a manner inconsistent with our personality.
Giving ourselves a positive stimulus for 3‒5 minutes helps the body discharge stress.