Life Check Yourself Episode 304 – With Bryant Ellis: How to Respond to Failure So You Win Every Time
Does it feel like you’re one step away from attrating your ideal match and having the loving, passionate, connected relationship you’ve always wanted in your life…
But you keep attracting the same guy with a different face?
Do you join swipe apps hoping this time will be different… then end up deleting them because once again it feels like a waste of time?
Do you hate online dating because you only attract ghosters, losers or unavailable men?
If any of this sounds like you, the bad news is you’re making the same mistakes over and over again.
But the really good news is, when you finally learn how to process your failures…
Success is right around the corner!
Marni welcomes the creator of the everchanging The Adventure Challenge game, Bryant Ellis. He is a risk-taking, rule-breaking high school dropout, entrepreneur, and newly-minted millionaire. As host of The Fail Journal podcast, he is determined to help people process failure as a lesson, not trauma.
Key Takeaways from this Episode:
- Changing the way we process failure
- Why boundaries are important
- Releasing shame around failure
- Rediscovering passion
The Adventure of Failing [1:48]
Bryant had the desire to create a game that was different every time he played it. When he landed on The Adventure Challenge he continued to drill down to make the game more adventurous and make different versions for dating, family, etc.
His side hustle became The Fail Journal podcast where he talks with people about their failures and how they process them. For Bryant, failure has always been a numbers game in his head.
Redirect how you think about failure to set you up for success.
How to Build a Strong Fail Muscle [7:47]
Bryant says to process failure differently we must work at it. It is a journey, not a destination. When we change the meaning we give to our failures, we release the fear of taking another risk. Without risk, there is no success.
No opinion should be too precious to change. Approaching life with curiosity is the best way to grow.
If Bryant Was a Man-Panelist [29:20]
Marni asks — What makes a guy want to go on a second or third date? Bryant wants to have a moment of connection and have fun. First dates can be awkward so he avoids dinner dates.
Marni asks Bryant if a woman sleeps with him on the first date, does it send the wrong message?
The fear of being alone caused him to stay in a relationship for too long. His biggest failure was being afraid of being alone. Now, he would rather be alone than be lonely with someone.
It is healthier to be alone than being lonely in a relationship.