Dating Den Episode 258 – Bachelorette Recap with Chris Gillis: How to Make Sure Conflict Doesn't Lead to a Breakup
This Bachelorette recap features real-life dating advice taken from the most recent episodes of the show. Marni and Man Panelist Chris Gillis talk about the mesmerizing episode where Greg Grippo breaks up with Katie! Does Katie have her love shield up? Is Greg too ‘real’ for TV?
Key takeaways from this episode:
- Navigating conflict in a relationship
- Ask higher-quality questions
- How to have a successful long-term relationship
- Gaslighting or authenticity?
Were There Off Camera Communication Between Katie and Greg? [2:06]
When Greg declared his love it was the rawest and most memorable moment in Reality TV. Greg Grippo was supposed to be THE guy for Katie. He was always more focused on the relationship, not the drama the producers prodded. Marni points out several instances when Katie pleaded for Greg not to go but ‘on camera’ Greg never mentioned he was going anywhere.
Does Katie have an unwarranted fear of abandonment that she pushed on Greg?
Where is the Katie we knew and loved from the beginning of the season? Did she turn into a robot? She barely responded when Greg said he loved her. Things heated up quickly. The thing that killed Katie and Greg was their inability to deal with conflict in a relationship.
Team Greg [19:29]
Marni thinks Greg is in love with Katie but he does not care about the theatrics of the show. She thinks he got scared about falling in love with Katie. Chris thinks Greg dated with dignity, and once the game show aspect of the show was over he wanted to get real but Katie couldn’t commit. Men love being the knight in shining armor but Katie wouldn’t allow herself to accept it.
Katie has a hard time receiving love. She has her love shield up.
To have a successful long-term relationship:
- Both parties need to be committed to individual growth.
- Both parties need to be committed to the growth of the relationship.
Greg was honorable. He collected data and the data he collected was not a good match for him. Both Marni and Chris believe Greg will not agree to be in the spotlight after the show ends. They believe he was in it to find love.
Do the Guys Who Said Goodbye Still Want Katie? [49:51]
Marni asks Chris if he thinks the guys Katie asked to leave the show feel they dodged a bullet, or do they want to be with Katie now that she is free? Both Chris & Marni think the good guys Katie let go feel like they dodged a bullet.
Katie told the producers off camera she loved Greg but never told Greg to his face.
You are going to have issues in a relationship at some point but when you are dating with intention and self-worth you will have established trust and commitment and be able to work through conflict.