Life Check Yourself Episode 302 – With Gary John Bishop: How to Let Go of Blame, Shame, and Baggage to Attract Your High-Quality Guy
Are you absolutely stumped as to why you haven’t attracted your amazing guy for a loving, passionate committed partnership…
You know the one.
He is handsome, smart, successful, spiritual (at least a little) and of course he’s crazy about you!
You’re obviously a catch if you’re reading this and chances are you’ve been to therapy, done the work and got the t-shirt!
And you’re not going to settle when it coes to a man. No way!
But could you be settling when it comes to you… or how you think of you?
The truth is, if you don’t think of yourself as that version of you…
the amazing woman who is ready for that great guy and that epic relationship, it could be killing your chances before you even start.
Marni welcomes author and personal development expert Gary John Bishop into the Life Check Yourself studio to discuss the impacts of his books and teachings. Gary John describes how we can uncover our personal truth and venture into relationships without blame or baggage.
Key Takeaways from this Episode:
- Let go of the need to be right
- Living an authentic life
- How to accomplish extraordinary things
- Forgiveness equals progress
Writing Unfu*k Yourself [1:47]
Gary John did not want to write a book. He resisted when a marketing representative approached him with the idea. He didn’t want to write a book called ‘Be Great’ because that is not his style. He was self-publishing, so he thought who cares what the title is. He was unwilling to do anything or write anything that felt inauthentic.
If you want to live an extraordinary life, you have to do something extraordinary.
Most people look at others who do extraordinary things and believe the other people have something special that propels them forward. But people who do extraordinary things are just people who were called to do something bigger and then took the necessary actions to get it done.
Love Unfu*ked [14:51]
In relationships, most of us are trying to fix something about ourselves from our past. We believe a relationship will be the answer we are looking for.
The first thing to do before you get in any relationship is to get clear about the kind of ‘you’ that is getting into the relationship. You can’t go into a new relationship with junk from the past.
If you take away the bullsh*t you can figure out what drives you to do what you do.
The Life You Are Willing to Put Up With [19:20]
Marni questions Gary John about people who claim to have done the work but just don’t implement what they have learned?
You have the life you are willing to put up with.
We can move, evolve, and change in the face of anything. The secret ingredient is us. If we want our life to be different, we have to be different.
The only thing that keeps us rooted in the past is blame. We become attached to being right, but we need to move past it.
It is not hard to forgive ourselves.
