Dating Den Episode 125 – With Dr. Stephen Porges: How Smart Women Calm Themselves Down When They Have Dating and Relationship-Related Anxiety
Do you want to know why your dates don’t go well…
Why a ‘great guy’ the ‘right guy’ isn’t chasing you, asking you out again and again…
Why you don’t have chemistry with Mr. Right?
Well, let’s see…
Do you go out on a date filled with anxiety…
Do you tense up around great men and have trouble being flirty and feminine?
If you want to know WHY dating so freakin’ hard…
Don’t miss this important episode where Marni welcomes Dr. Stephen Porges, an expert in how the nervous system plays a critical role in our relationships.
Dr. Porges says that in our culture we present the supermodel face. It is the presentation of being beautiful but not being available. This is not what our bodies want. Our bodies want people who are interactive, supportive, and reciprocal to who we are.
What is really attractive is the emotional safety conveyed through facial expression.
In the early moments of starting relationships, we are negotiating safety in psychological space.
Why Dating Can Be Terrifying [13:21]
There is little predictability in dating. Will he call? Does he like me?
When we ask ourselves these questions it is an example of our nervous system searching for the predictability. If there is uncertainty, we feel unsafe and it can create a feeling of terror.
Relationships aren’t based on words they are based on how we relate to each other. We need reciprocity to feel understood and emotionally safe. Uncertainty puts us in a defensive mode.
If you want great tips for staying calm when you’re dating, and how to stay happy in a long-term relationship…
Don’t miss this episode!
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Make a Connection:
“Why do you need your smartphone for connection when there is a person next to you?”
“Accessibility is the secret of successful human behavior.”
“Anxiety can trigger the other person’s defensiveness or push them away.”