Life Check Yourself Episode 354 – Girl, These Are the Basic Mistakes You Can’t Afford to Make in the Beginning with Chris Gillis
Marni and Chris gather the Dating Dos and Don’ts from this season’s first episode of Bachelor in Paradise. There were some great lessons about what to share on the first and second dates. FYI, IBS isn’t one of those things, Hunter!
- Subconsciously adopting social constructs like age
- The art of setting boundaries
- Creating pseudo-intimacy by over texting
- When to reveal your fetishes
When to Share Your Medical Truth & Age Issues [:56]
In the episode, Hunter offers us a great Dating Don’t opportunity. She talks about her IBS with Johnny. It made Marni uncomfortable when she heard it. Her advice is not to share this type of information too soon. Romeo became overwhelmed by all of Hunter’s issues.
Dating Don’t — Don’t share all of your medical conditions on the first date.
This season seems to be the geriatric version of Bachelor in Paradise boasting several over 30 contestants. Chris Gillis warns against accepting social labels as our own. Age normally doesn’t become an issue until we make it mean something about us.
Setting Boundaries [10:56]
Romeo, Kira, and Jill show us an example of Dating Dos and Don’ts if a person you are dating is dating other people. In the show, we are aware that Romeo kissed Kira in a club. Kira comes off like she has a weird ownership of Romeo after just the kiss and some texts. The issue is Romeo tells Jill he likes her. But then totally weirds out when it comes to telling Kira he is not interested in her. The art of the breakup is not his forte.
Dating Do — If you are not interested in someone, tell them swiftly, simply, and succinctly.
And, ladies, watch Kira try to get validation through sex. Marni says if you make up the story that all guys want is sex and then you come across as sexually aggressive a guy WILL take you up on it. He will not be considering you for a long-term commitment because he will be wondering how many other dudes you are playing the same game with.
Dating Do — Be honest about what you want from a relationship and lead with your values.
Creating a False Sense of Intimacy [15:18]
Serene and Brandon demonstrate a big Dating Don’t. Marni says it is a big don’t to reveal too much when texting as it creates a pseudo-intimacy. It is impossible to create an intimate connection without ever being face-to-face. Save the juicy stuff for when you meet in person.