Dating Den Episode 146 – Bachelor Recap Season 24 Ep. 3: With Chris Gillis - Don't Make These Two Crucial Dating Mistakes - Red Flags You Are Missing and Are You Being Too Vulnerable?
If you’re looking for a quality guy, smart, sensitive and successful…
A manly-man who’s evolved, emotionally available and marriage-minded…
then look no further than The Bachelor!
That’s right Ladies, The Bachelor is back!
Marni and her favorite man-panelist, Chris Gillis break down Episode 3 to pull out all the juicy nuggets you need to know. Together, they translate the show’s drama into real-life dating and relationship scenarios that you can use in your life to make finding a high-quality guy easier.
Key takeaways from this episode:
- The importance of being authentically you
- How to turn a victim story into a hero story
- What your facial expressions say about you
- It’s ok to ask a friend’s advice
When a Pink Flag Turns Red for a Man [1:46]
Marni and Chris discuss their winner’s bracket and Chris admits that he chose Alayah as the winner with his eyes.
Yes, men have a natural attraction to the physical. And Alayah is beautiful… but she is sending up all kinds of red flags!
Ladies, this show is jam-packed with valuable lessons on what not-to-do to attract a great guy!
Plus, Marni gives you the best advice on how to be your true authentic self and be real about your bumps and bruises, while attracting an amazing man who loves you for who you really are!
How to Share Your Challenges Without Playing the Victim [21:08]
Victoria P. had another shoddy week. On her date with Pete, she seemed to throw up her childhood story in a victim-y way instead of being naturally vulnerable.
Marni notes that dirty laundry is not vulnerability.
Sharing your story can create connection but you have to tell how it made you the wonderful person you are today. When you tell the victim story you will attract guys who are attracted to victims.
Who you are attracted to is a reflection of where you are in your self-worth and ability to stay emotionally safe.
Kelly, the attorney, is low-key. She admits that the other girls aren’t necessarily her people and this competition isn’t her scene yet makes it clear to Peter that she really likes him.
Marni and Chris point out that Kelly isn’t creating drama which makes her confident and engaging.
Takeaways From Episode 3 of The Bachelor [32:03]
- Don’t be the victim.
- Be authentically you.
- Your body language will always tell the truth.
- Go with your gut feelings.
Make a Connection:
“Human beings are insanely accurate BS/lie detectors.”
“Looks get you the interview but personality gets you the job.”
“Be honest about your bumps and bruises.”