Life Check Yourself Episode 360 – Dating Multiple Men: What to Say and Do to Finesse it Like a Queen with Chris Gillis
Marni and Chris chew on all the juicy morsels that were this week’s Bachelor in Paradise which was hands-down the most interesting and real-life episode so far. The examples on the show prove you can have an amazing date one night and have another amazing date with someone else the next night.
Takeaways from this episode:
- Learn not to take things personally
- It takes some people longer to process how they feel
- What real-life Dating with Dignity looks like #BeAVictoria
- Infatuation and chemistry are not values
Dating Multiple People [2:49]
The big switch took place in Casa Amor this week. Contestants have shuffled around and landed with different people to date. Surprisingly, none of the guys said anything negative about the girl they decided to quit seeing.
When you are contemplating why someone didn’t ask you out on another date, maybe it’s not that all men are malicious or there is something wrong with you, it could just be they found a better connection with someone else. Don’t take it personally.
Shanae perfectly portrays what not to do when someone doesn’t want to date you anymore. Hint… she went ballistic.
Chris asks Marni why some people take themselves emotionally out of the market too early, like Jill who is leaving. Could be the producers asked her to leave since she has dated most of the guys already and there is no love connection with Jacob.
Victoria’s Secret [14:58]
Both Marni and Chris agree Victoria is the quintessential Dating with Dignity woman. She keeps her cool. She knows what she wants and she stays open to listening to what a guy wants. If every woman dated like Victoria is dating there would be peace on earth.
She knows Johnny is an F-boy who doesn’t want to be engaged at the end of the season. Yet, she asks him open-ended questions that seem to make him uncomfortable. She is listening for the truth. This helps her weed out guys who don’t share her values and don’t check her boxes and allows her to move on to find someone whom she can have a future with.
Ladies, when you feel a strong physical attraction to someone or become unnerved when they don’t text, ask yourself if you are feeling a healthy adult love or an unmet childhood need for love.
Sometimes people confuse physical chemistry with 6th-grade butterflies or high school drama.
Ladies, if someone says no to you, don’t take it personally. Think about if he is really even your person before getting emotional. Is he a person of value? Is he your equal? How is he treating you? Slowly going through these questions will make things clearer and take the emotion out of the equation.
