Life Check Yourself Episode 343 – 3 Things You Must Communicate to a Man Early in the Dating Process To Make Sure He is Not a Player or Commitment Phobe with Chris Gillis & Dr. Emily
Marni is joined by Chris Gillis and Dr. Emily to discuss the Hometown episode of the Bachelorette. Everyone on the internet is wondering why this season is such a letdown. What started as somewhat interesting has turned into a car wreck. You don’t want to look but you can’t turn away. Let’s find out how Gabby and Rachel navigated their guys’ families on their turf.
Takeaways from this episode:
- Get clear about your values and vision
- Trying on guys to see what fits
- Things to communicate early in dating
- Stop taking things personally
Gabby Hometown [1:50]
Each contestant has the option of visiting the hometown of four guys. Gabby only chose to do three hometowns and is making quite the stir about it. She never lets on about why she didn’t meet four families but it may imply she already knows who she is choosing as her partner.
Marni questions why two of the guys, Jason and Johnny, who got all the way to this point tell their parents they don’t think they can marry Gabby in the near future. Gabby insists she is ready for a long-term relationship.
When you are ambivalent or unclear about your vision and core values you will attract people who are the same.
Gabby displays a pinkish flag when she asks Jason’s family if there is a side of Jason that she isn’t seeing. Dr. Emily points out that the three guys Gabby has chosen are vastly different types of guys. Is Gabby trying on different types of guys to see what fits her best?
Marni says Gabby is amazing and needs to get over her feelings of being broken.
Gabby tells Erich she is falling in love with him!
Rachel Hometown [15:18]
While Rachel took advantage of all four of her hometown opportunities, she should have saved Tyler time, energy, and heartbreak and skipped his. For their date, Tyler had all of his friends at the hot dog stand and Rachel tells him goodbye. Dr. Emily thinks Rachel wanted to be interested in Tyler but just couldn’t get there.
It’s a bummer Tyler said I love you before Rachel broke up with him. Her communication skills definitely need some work. She is such a people pleaser she prolonged the news for much too long. She should have given Tyler a little more respect.
If a guy is great on paper but you are not into him and this happens over and over again, you need to Life Check Yourself!
Of the three guys left, Marni and Dr. Emily believe Rachel should choose Zach. He may be plain vanilla but he shows the most promise. But she is likely to choose Tino even after the somewhat defeating hometown visit with him.
Did Tino’s family know he went on a reality show? Considering they think the concept of a reality dating show is silly. Rachel reacts victimy and takes their comments personally choosing to believe that it is more about her than the concept.
Will Gabby bow out and leave the crown to Rachel?
