While most of society is geared toward finding The One and settling down, singlehood often lands with a big fat stigma attached to it. Single women are constantly pitied by paired up friends and presumed to be lonely, depressed, and desperate for love.
While some single ladies may exude that aura, it doesn’t have to (and shouldn’t!) be that way. Your single years shouldn’t feel like an era of failure but rather a time to embrace your independence, enjoy your freedom, and get to know who really are—which, coincidentally, will better prepare you for a lasting relationship. Since it’s easy to get stuck in a sad singles rut, here are eight Dating with Dignity tips to lead a more fulfilling single life.
- Don’t Dwell
Past heartbreaking events tend to hang around and affect how you deal with the present and think of the future. Any time you catch yourself thinking about what you could’ve done differently to win back that ex, train yourself to remember that exes are just that for a reason.
- Try New Things
What better time to explore new hobbies than when there’s no one to run it by but yourself? Sign up for a night course, check out a local painting class, or attend an eclectic event in your city that piques your interest. You may just wind up making some new friends, too!
- Tap into Your Creativity
With so many new hobbies on your calendar and alone time to reflect, you’ll likely find a new or rediscovered element of creativity weaving its way into your life. Use this time on your own to see where it takes you.
- Make Yourself a Priority
No matter how much it consumes your thoughts, dating is just one tiny fraction of your life. Cook a delicious meal for yourself even if no one is coming over, take yourself to a movie or concert, and write regularly in a journal. Remind yourself of how much you’re worth, with or without a steady partner.
Regardless of how much alone time and introspection being single can entail, finding time to date is still an important piece of the puzzle. Dating in any context, no matter how horribly awkward it turns out to be, is great practice and will help you to narrow down (or expand) what you’re looking for in a mate.
- Take Off the Pressure
Don’t feel like you have to talk yourself into liking someone. Some people just aren’t the right fit, and that’s okay.
- Set (and Stick to) Standards
Harness your independence and strike out anyone who doesn’t treat you with the respect and care you deserve. Take this time to determine which values and traits are of the utmost importance to you, and filter out any fellas who don’t meet those fundamental requirements.
Spending your energy chasing men or desperately trying to mold the wrong ones into your soulmate will distract you from keeping up your antennae for red flags and enjoying your solo free time.
So what do you do with these eight tips? Take one or two to that really resonate with you, put them to work, and see how these small changes can make a BIG impact on your dating life.
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