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		<title>Living in the Question Mark:  How to Pull-Out of the &#8220;He&#8217;s Out or He&#8217;s In&#8221; Mentality</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 16 Aug 2010 22:58:11 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Marni Battista</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[I like to use imagery to help clients (and myself) understand what life is like when lived "in the question mark."  Imagine then, if you will, the two extreme options.  For example, the man I am dating is "in"  -- meaning he is "the one," or he is "out," meaning I must break up with him immediately.  If I choose to live in the "question mark," however, I am standing smack dab in the middle of both these extreme options.

What, though, does it feel like to BE, to LIVE  life in the question mark?  Here's how to experience those feelings so that you can begin to go there effortlessly when you feel yourself heading down the path of "either/or"  black and white thinking]]></description>
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		<title>The Ash from 4th of July Fallout:  Why Is it Hard to be Single on National Holidays?</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 06 Jul 2010 02:17:17 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Marni Battista</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[I was thinking about holidays yesterday, and how the men I dated  in the past influenced my experience of Fourth of July.  There was the "Big Breakup" guy who told me, point blank, on July 4th, that he wanted to cancel plans because he "wanted to hang with his friends, drink some beers, play pool and chill.  He then said that I should 'get it,' intimating my disappointment was inappropriate.  He also told me I was being"needy" when I retorted to his change of plans, claiming, "Most guys wanna spend time with their girlfriends on the Fourth of July."  ]]></description>
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		<title>There Are No Miracles at Starbucks. How to Get the Love you Deserve</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 16 Jun 2010 18:37:53 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Marni Battista</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Date and Relationship Coach Marni Battista shares how she found love and created an amazing life--and how you can too!]]></description>
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		<title>Why Is Everyone Being So Mean to Valentine&#8217;s Day?</title>
		<link>http://datingwithdignity.com/2010/02/why-is-everyone-being-so-mean-to-valentines-day/</link>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 11 Feb 2010 16:55:40 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Marni Battista</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[If Valentine's Day were a person I would be defending her, taking her to lunch to help "pump" her up, and unabashedly wondering why people are avoiding her at all costs.  I mean, geez, she's just a pink and red Hallmark holiday moment. She doesn't smell.  Dress weird, or have bad breath.
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		<title>A Quick and Easy Way to Get Rich.</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 01 Feb 2010 17:50:44 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Marni Battista</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[oly wow, I thought.  As the man continued his countdown, nearing the number ONE, people began to run from their seats, pushing past chairs, haphazardly careening past those who had chosen to simply walk.  It was incredible.  Did these people really believe that this organization could help them to acquire tremendous wealth with ease? Here I had been sitting in the room next door listening to the New Thought Gurus tell people that thinking "inside the box" was limiting their ability to be successful, while this man was calling them to action.  He had, I'm sure, spent the hour prior to the sales pitch giving his own version of "believe in yourself," and now he had managed to inspire (or brainwash?) people to run to pay money and invest in their belief.

Who was right?  The Gurus?  The Salesman?]]></description>
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		<title>Getting Back to the Life I Love &#8211; Self Care Gone Wild!</title>
		<link>http://datingwithdignity.com/2010/01/getting-back-to-the-life-i-love-self-care-gone-wild/</link>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 06 Jan 2010 21:56:48 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Marni Battista</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[I also want to reflect on my vacation, and the state of mind I had which enabled ideas to flow freely, love to grow and compassion to deepen. In looking more carefully at this, I realized I had a certain routine while on vacation which enabled me to access deeper parts of myself; A routine in which I took care of myself.  Ahh -- back to the concept of self care, -- and an expansion of the Self-Care Bootcamp I began in the end of 2009. So, what did I do in Maui?
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		<title>How the Bad Stuff in 2009 Can Help Define a Positive Journey Ahead</title>
		<link>http://datingwithdignity.com/2009/12/how-the-bad-stuff-in-2009-can-help-define-a-positive-journey-ahead/</link>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 26 Dec 2009 20:54:14 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Marni Battista</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Ugh.  I'm supposed to be better than this.  How could I have done such a thoughtless thing?  And then I began to think further.  What other mistakes have I made this year?  And more importantly, how can I change these behaviors and begin to let those mistakes take me to a higher place of being in 2010?  In fact, I realize, these mistakes are opportunities to grow, become a better person.  I can become more compassionate.  Learn to stop ignoring the small voice.  I can change, shift, transform, and learn.

I have been keeping a journal while I've been here containing thoughts and ideas for 2010.  Things I want to do.  Places I want to go, and goals I would like to achieve.  And as a result, I have decided to become a better at communicating with family.  I am going to send more notes.  I am going to forgive myself for mistakes made, and put writing condolence and thank you notes higher on "my list" to do list.  I am going to send birthday greetings, and send more gifts.  I am going to practice what I teach -- make my words and actions match.   What is on your list?  ]]></description>
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		<title>Q and A Monday:  No chemistry on Date #1, Should I See Him Again?</title>
		<link>http://datingwithdignity.com/2009/12/q-and-a-monday-no-chemistry-on-date-1-should-i-see-him-again/</link>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 08 Dec 2009 07:02:57 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Marni Battista</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Men and women like you are spending money, time and energy to meet someone with whom they want to fall in love.  What's more, it means that because there are so many people actively dating, it is easy to rule someone out within 30 seconds of meeting them.  "Ick," you think.  "She's out.  Who's next?"  Clients tell me there was "no chemistry," admitting that after those first thirty seconds they literally stopped engaging with the person. Stopped listening carefully, never looked the person across the table in the eye, and immediately discounted them as someone they wanted to get to know.
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		<title>How to make a clean break?</title>
		<link>http://datingwithdignity.com/2009/12/how-to-make-a-clean-break/</link>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 01 Dec 2009 21:44:13 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Marni Battista</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[It seems that letting go of a relationship, especially when the person meets 75% -80% of your needs, is a challenge.  Men and women constantly ask me what is the "right" way to break up?  Should they have "break-up" sex, can they be just  "friends," should they talk on the phone regularly?  Or, should they just sever ties  --  make a clean break?  ]]></description>
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		<title>&#8220;I am Grateful for&#8221; &#8212; Totally Overused on Thanksgiving?</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 27 Nov 2009 00:26:14 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Marni Battista</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[ I woke up this morning totally missing my mom, who died 14 months ago after a heroic battle with lung cancer.  I had a dream last night in which she turned up, "not dead," and we were driving around Arizona (the place  my parents lived for the past 15 years) looking for a place to stay.  In the dream I kept suggesting to go to her friends' homes, but she insisted they had adjusted to her being gone so we should not "freak them out" by turning up.  Weird, right?  Thing is, I miss my mom.  Sometimes more, sometimes less.  But the truth is that today while I was baking yams I wished I had spent more time cooking with her, instead of going for the long run, reading in my bedroom, or watching football with the gang.  ]]></description>
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