Q and A Day! What do I do when his “stuff” triggers me into my “stuff?”
I am so excited to launch into answering questions we have been receiving via email and Facebook so that you can understand how to Break Free from your Romantic Rut and find partnership, love of self and a partner, as well as peace and confidence!
For those of you who are new to Dating With Dignity, let me give you a brief orientation on our philosophy regarding how to be in a successful relationship.
One of the first steps I believe you must take to being truly “ready” to be in a healthy, interdependent relationship (I’m talking about emotionally ready, not just ready in your intellect, because your biological clock is ticking, your parents are “worried” about you, or your kids are finally more independent) is to take a deep look at what your typical dating and relationship patterns may be. It’s not that we want to dig into the past, therapy style, but more importantly for this work, simply be brave enough to recognize the following:
1. What are my typical dating patterns (who do I usually attract, how do I “feel” in relationship, how do my relationships end?)
2. What are the beliefs I have about relationship, my self, love, commitment, and men. Do these beliefs limit me? Do I have assumptions that those things that have happened in my past (e.g., I was left, cheated on, hurt, burned, objectified etc) will happen in the future?
3. Am I willing to look at how these beliefs have held me hostage, and am I ready to do the work necessary to move through them so that I can ultimately attract a partner who loves me not only in word, but via his actions OVER TIME?
Let’s use one of the brave questions I received recently as an example:
“I’m 59 and have been dating a guy for 18 months. He has been married three times and he’s scared to death. It’s like we were made for each other. H e does exhibit signs of what I know is true…that he is the child of an alcoholic parent…so he enjoys his alone time. (I mean he goes into a cave like setting when he needs to be alone.) What can I do to help him? Should I join Alanon just to learn? We’re in love and we have no doubts about that, but when he does this I FEEL all alone.” – C
Here we go…







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